Today supposed to be the 2 year anniversary w/ my ex, and I broke it up a month ago or so. I broke it off because we were in LDR (before LDR, we were together in person for a year) the communication w/ him was terrible, his messages was dry, and I even called him "NPC" during one of the arguments cuz talking to him isn't a back n forth one, it feels a one way convo, and he doesn't even feel possessive at me/ our relationship, which I wanted to just a little bit so I could feel he cares, he said he cares and he just dont get jealous (to which I just accept it).
Before breaking up, I talked to him about these like 2 times or so, and he says it takes him for a long time to change. I understand that but after 4-5 months I couldn't see any progress and the conversation with him during every video call was just quiet like to the point it made me like I'm wasting the time if neither of us was speaking.
We were also talking about getting married, he is the one enthusiastic about it cuz he is looking for wedding venues even tho he hadn't proposed, and he is always the one telling me that he loves me, and he likes talking about our future together.
I was also stressing out with my life, but all he can say is "Im sorry" whenever I vent out because he told me before he didn't know what to say.
He then gave me space (Instead of him being there for me) then I broke it off, I had reached my limit, it gave me some sort of relief like I could breathe. but then he was sad and he just accepted it, he didn't even try to fight for it and he knew I was going to break it off. Which I feel bad.
Right now, I don't know if it was a mistake that I broke it off with him, because I miss him and the memories that we had. I wanted him to be my end game. He made me feel love, and he was my best friend. Should have I just endured the relationship and make things work or did I do the right thing to break it off so we could waste each other's time?
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Ah man, that's a really tough one. On the one hand, I get why you broke it off - the communication issues and lack of effort on his part would frustrate anyone, especially in an LDR. You talked to him about it and he didn't really change, so your hands were kinda tied at that point.
But from the sounds of it, you also really cared about him and saw a future there before things got hard. Plus now you're missing what you had. So it's no surprise your head's all messed up wondering if you did the right thing.
I don't know, relationships are complicated. Maybe if it was in person things could've gotten better with more effort on both sides. But an LDR really tests that kind of connection and it just didn't seem to be working out practically.
At the same time, I don't think enduring an unfulfilling relationship out of obligation is good either. You gotta look out for your own happiness too, you know?
Honestly, only time will tell if this was the right call in the long run. For now, just focus on healing and moving forward. The past is the past and you can't change what happened. Chalk it up as a dope experience overall and keep it pushing, yeah? You'll get through this.
You made the right choice
If you return to him out of loneliness- you will be back here again and your condition will be worse than you are right now