During the relationship, which was long distance, he was the real insecure controller: he banned me from posting pictures on social media, even if it was a normal picture, my body shouldn't appear, made me remove old pictures that he disliked (with covered dresses, nothing revealing), made me filter my followers and followings and cut off male friends. I had my vacation time and he wanted me not go on a two day vacation, I didn't. I didn't go to my master's degree celebration because of him. It escalated to him wanting to micromanage my closet and clothes and banning me from the gym. Once it reached that point, we broke up. I decided to do it since I realised there was no healthy way to have a relationship with him.
Of course he blamed me for the breakup, said I didn't love him enough to endure his bulls**** while he was working on himself to improve his control issues.
Well, the last time we talked, he pretended he felt so good after the breakup. He said he was less depressed, cleaned his house and left it spotless and that he feels he has more freedom now to do certain things. That he couldn't do them before because I was trying to get even (I mean... I was only telling him that if he was banning me from doing so many things, at least he needed to also abide by the same rules and not have double standards with me). He said he had to move on because I said that I couldn't love him. I didn't know how to react, if laughing or crying because it feels so delusional. I can't believe his head actually twisted everything in the sense that he's now the victim. I'm still suffering and missing, while he seems so.. I don't know, detached and happy. I feel I have been literally abused in my soul. Then he said he needed to go to do some shopping and completely stopped answering the messages.
Does he really think those things or he's just saying them to hurt me? I should be feeling good and refreshed after such controlling relationship, but I'm the one actually suffering.
