Why would an ex want to make it obvious that he’s moved on of it ended on good terms even though he wanted to try again after choosing to break up?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

There could be a variety of reasons why an ex would want to make it obvious that they've moved on, even if the breakup ended on good terms and they previously expressed interest in trying again. Here’s possibilities:

One possibility is that the ex may be trying to prove to themselves or others that they are over the relationship and have moved on. They may be trying to assert their independence and show that they are capable of being happy without their former partner.

Another possibility is that the ex may be trying to make their former partner jealous or upset. They may be using their newfound freedom and social life as a way to get back at their ex or to make them regret the breakup.

It's also possible that the ex may simply be trying to live their life and move forward in a positive way. They may not be intentionally trying to send a message to their former partner, but their actions may still have an impact on how their ex perceives the situation.

Ultimately, it's important to remember that everyone has their own reasons and motivations for their behavior. If you're feeling hurt or confused by your ex's actions, it may be helpful to communicate openly and honestly with them about how you're feeling and to try to find a way to move forward in a healthy and constructive way.

[Asker]

So what would some signs be that I BBC I’ll look out for to determine the difference?

[Asker]

*that I could look out for

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry, but I'm not sure what you mean by "BBC" in this context. Could you please clarify or provide more information so that I can better understand your question and offer an appropriate response?

[Asker]

I already corrected it below the comment - see above.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay I see

[Opinion Owner]

If you're trying to determine whether an ex is genuinely moving on or if they're trying to make it obvious for other reasons, here are some signs you could look out for:

1. They're focused on their own life and goals: If your ex is genuinely moving on, they may be focused on pursuing their own interests and goals, whether that's a new job, hobby, or relationship. They may not be as focused on what you're doing or trying to send you any particular message.

2. They're not trying to make you jealous or upset: If your ex is genuinely moving on, they may not be trying to make you jealous or upset. They may be respectful of your feelings and boundaries, and may not be posting or saying things specifically to get a reaction from you.

3. They're not constantly talking about their new life: If your ex is genuinely moving on, they may not be constantly talking about their new life or trying to make it obvious to you or others. They may be more focused on living in the present and building a new future for themselves.

4. They're not trying to contact you unnecessarily: If your ex is genuinely moving on, they may not be trying to contact you unnecessarily or keep tabs on what you're doing. They may be respectful of your space and boundaries, and may not be trying to initiate contact or start conversations for no reason.

5. They're happy and content with their new life: If your ex is genuinely moving on, they may be happy and content with their new life, whether that's because of a new relationship or other changes. They may not be trying to prove anything to anyone, but rather simply enjoying their newfound happiness and fulfillment.

The best and effective way in my opinion is to determine whether your ex is genuinely moving on or trying to send a message is to pay attention to their actions and behavior over time. If you're unsure or have questions, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with them to gain clarity and understanding.

[DermalPunch]

What makes you say they are making it obvious? Maybe they are just living their life.

[Asker]

When you know someone we’ll enough you can gage these things.

[DermalPunch]

Alright, well great!

[Asker]

It’s fairly obvious to anyone who questions things in balance.

[DermalPunch]

Listen, he's an ass and is immature and you are too old to be getting sucked into this garbage. Now, is the time to go inward.

[Asker]

There are a lot of strange mindsets here though so it does encourage defensiveness, especially if people are already prone to that anyway. I get it.

[Asker]

And this is part of that. Again, shouldn’t really have to justify but yeah.

[DermalPunch]

I've been through it. My advicen is to move on. BELIEVE ME there is better out there but not until you become better.