Why does ex genuinely want to stay friends & meet up again but only once he’s sorted his head out (which was the reason for breakup)?

Question

We were together for a couple of years but he’s divorced so is still going through some stuff. He thinks it’s not fair to hold me back because he can’t guarantee he can give me more in the future (marriage and kids) even though I’ve not put any pressure on that because I don’t want those yet myself. Personally I just think he’s panicking a bit more than necessary, unless it’s an excuse. He did say he’s still figuring out what he wants, which I believe. But why would he want to remain friends and meet up in the future once his head is sorted.

Sorrento-Sun · Accepted Answer

I was once in a similar situation. I cared so much about the guy that I was prepared to wait and put my life on hold. Which I did.

Over time, he gradually pushed me out his life. It was heartbreaking.

Now, i"d never wait until a guy made up his mind if he wanted to be with me or not. I want a guy who'll jump fences to be with me, not sit on the fence.

He's doing the right thing by not being on a relationship when he's not ready. Plus, he has the decency to be upfront and honest with you. But you need to decide if you are emotionally and mentally strong enough to deal with the situation. It won't be easy for you. It'll cause a lot of anxiety, frustration and heartbreak until he makes up his mind. And you'd need to be prepared for him never wanting to be with you in the future.

The situation will greatly affect your mental health if you love him and want a future with him.

Wise4myage · Answer

I say cut him lose and move on. He's an ex for a reason.

Why does ex genuinely want to stay friends & meet up again but only once he’s sorted his head out (which was the reason for breakup)?

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