I know this guy from the gym for a couple of years. The gym has co-ed classes, and he's one of the instructors. He's in his late 20's, I'm in my mid-30s (but look younger, from what I've been told). It seemed like we were both shy but interested in each other. I tried to talk to him several times on/off, but it then got to the point where it seemed like the effort was one-sided, and now a bit weird (i. e., for the amount of staring he'd do at me when he thought I wasn't looking).
I figured it was a lost cause. I was busy and didn't see him for a month at the gym. To cut a long story short, what happened next was not what I expected to happen at all... He apparently started dating someone at the gym, and purposefully showed up when I was there (yes, it was on purpose, without getting into all the details). The first time, he stared me down when I entered the gym, and then scampered over to her side and kept looking at me during the workout for my reaction (I just focused on my workout).
The second time, he made flirty, lame comments to her in front of me, and he did so the second I walked in and was near her. I thought ok, fine, you don't like me, I get it. But then the rest of the class, he ignored her and hovered around me (inches behind me) the entire time, giving me numerous pointers. Around this time, randomly, another guy at the gym started showing some interest me and we would talk a bit (nothing overtly flirty). A couple of weeks later, he shows up again on purpose, with her and he really ramps it up this time, with overt, childish flirting, like play-fighting her and swooning over her the entire the time. It was weird and a bit disruptive to the class too, as it was distracting the instructor. I just pretended not to notice but could see out my peripheral that he was trying to check my reaction.
The whole trying to make me jealous thing seems unnecessarily mean. I'd expect this from an ex that was scorned, but we didn't even date or talk that much?
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He wasn't interested in you, but now he is doing all this is to make you jealous? That doesn't even make sense.
You think he intentionally showed up when you were there? How could you possibly know that? You make it seem like everything he is doing is about you... but he was never interested and you never dated...
You are the one watching his every move like a hawk judging by the ridiculous level of detail you go into. Just let it go already.
Just because it doesn't make sense, doesn't mean it didn't happen. Why would he stare at me for months on end during the classes? As for the showing up when I was there, he has access to the class schedule, so he'd know. If I signed up last minute, he wouldn't be there. Not that it matters, because when I was in the same classes as him and that girl, he was putting a show on and checking my reaction. Regardless, I do agree to move on, that's what I was doing, until he started acting bizarrely.
Doesn't mean what happened? He looked at you? You are going third level on some ridiculous stuff. Staring means nothing, really. The schedule thing is coincidence. You are looking for reasons to connect all this and it just doesn't add up. So, again, why would he do ALL these things when he wasn't interested in you to begin with, and you never even dated.