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So there was a spider on the wall (the biggest spider I'd ever seen) so I internally start freaking out and hurry to tell him, (I knock on the door and tell him about the spider) and the first thing he says is "so what im I supposed to do just hop outta the shower and get it?" And let me yell u it was the most annoyed insensitive tone I'd ever heard him muster up... by time he's outta the shower he gets the spider and puts it outside. Later that day I bring up to him how I didn't like how he spoke to me and that it was rude, he continues to tell me that it was childish of me to bother him in the shower and that I should have waited to say anything to him until he's out of the shower, that im a grown women afraid over a spider and that im too emotional and need to think first before I do and say things to him... how am I suppose to know what I should say or so so it doesn't annoy him or aggravate him... he's actually like this outside of the slider incident... like if he's on his phone a lot and I try to get his attention he will tell me to chill out or ask why I'm acting like that... it's really hurtful and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and can't be myself because I'm afraid he will react aggressive or insensitive... what do you guys think?

I’ve started seeing this man recently, and he’s great and we have a lot in common. There’s a natural chemistry. Obviously there have been a few heated moments but we haven’t slept together. We’ve gone out twice and have plans tomorrow and Friday and I know he wants to sleep with me, but he texts me in between, asks questions about me, my family, my day, etc. and it doesn’t feel like that’s all he wants but I’m not sure. I feel like guys who just want to get laid just wait for that. I should also mention that he drives over a half hour to see me even though he knows I’m not ready for all of that yet. Only issue is we have only been able to go out at night due to our work schedules