My baby dad is angry because I know the gender of our baby?

[xolaurenxx]

I’m 15 weeks pregnant. Originally the baby dad wanted nothing to do with the baby up until 5 days ago. During this time where he was threatening me, being abusive to me and threatening to break into my house and Jill himself my mom booked a surprise scan for a gender reveal that I did not know about. 5 days ago he’s been stepping up and wanting to be in the baby’s life, but the scan was already booked for me my mom and my bestest friend, so I couldn’t really kick them out. It was a complete surprise, they said we were going for a meal and they took me to a scan place as they knew how desperate I was for a boy which I’m happily having. I tried to call him multiple times in the scan room to ask if he wanted to know as I couldn’t really tell him about it as I had no clue either. He didn’t answer his phone was off and I literally say the babies genitals on the scan and she revealed it’s a boy.

I said to him the situation and that this surprise scan was booked when he literally blocked me and despised the baby and he’s so angry at me saying I shouldn’t have known the gender and I should have waited until birth and that it’s not fair I didn’t tell him but I had NO clue and he’s only been in my life again the past 4 days? Am I the asshole here? It was a surprise I kept calling him, his phone was off as he’s at a party and now he’s calling me a slag and bitch and whore and stupid and slow stupid girl saying I’m a dickhead?

I’m begging for his forgiveness here. He called my mom stupid for not telling him about the scan but it’s been 4 days since he stepped up, she had no clue he meant business. Also we aren’t together. I was just so excited in the moment and it was a surprise as originally he hated the idea of this baby and hated me.

[Anonymous]

It's important to remember that you have the right to make decisions about your pregnancy, including finding out the gender of your baby. It's also important to prioritize your safety and well-being, especially if your baby's father has been abusive or threatening in the past.

It sounds like the surprise scan was a special moment for you, and it's understandable that you would want to share that with your loved ones. It's unfortunate that your baby's father was not able to be there, but it's not your fault that he was not available or did not answer his phone.

It's concerning that your baby's father is resorting to name-calling and abusive language, especially if he has a history of being abusive or threatening towards you. It's important to prioritize your safety and well-being, and to consider whether this person's behavior is aligned with your values and boundaries.

It may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend or family member, or to consider talking to a therapist or counselor. They can offer guidance and support as you navigate this difficult situation and make decisions about how to move forward.

Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own emotional and physical safety above all else.

[Wisdom-Strength-Love]

I don't know, sounds like you have a tough road ahead. Say what you wulk about single moms, but i believe those trials without the deadbeat fathers makes them stronger and i have nothin but respect for them.


Then there are the damaged women who waste a lot of years in an abusive relationship and can't quite give other men a faiir chance


My opinion. If he is literally having a serious fit over you knowing something that is inevitable, then he sounds immature. He should be grateful you birthing his child and for 12 weeks into pregnancy , he needs to be your bitch all the way till your child is a preteen

[Anonymous]

Stop begging for his forgiveness. He is abusive. You need to take steps to protect yourself. If this is how he is while you are pregnant. How much more worse will it be when the baby comes along.

You are the mum and you had every right to know the gender. If he wanted to wait until birth to know, well he should have been in the picture from day one.

[anonpabo]

he isn't worth your time or energy. i know its hard, but you do not need to ask for forgiveness. you did NOTHING wrong. the top priority should be you and your baby

[KrakenAttackin]

You really were stupid for deciding to get pregnant.

[anonpabo]

shut up.

[KrakenAttackin]

@anonpabo Single mothers are a cancer.