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She won’t butt out. At first I took it as “okay, she means well”, but now I don’t know. I took a long break from dating and was fine just being single, and she says “nope, you’re 40 now and you’ve been single too long. You need a man in your life. Since you’re friends with me you’re getting a man whether you want one or not” (she loves to matchmake). I realize she has a point, so I get on Facebook dating. She saw me on the apps one day at lunchtime (we work together) and she’s telling me who to swipe right on, who to swipe left on, etc and when I didn’t swipe right on a guy she told me too, she literally took my phone out of my hand and swiped on a whole bunch of guys because I (according to her) “clearly don’t know how to pick men”. Eventually I did match with a guy who I really liked, we’ve been dating for almost a year, and she doesn’t like him. Apparently she’s got someone all picked out who she wants to fix me up with (who’s a really nice guy and financially well off but I’m not attracted to him). The guy understands and said it’s fine but she won’t stop and says “this guy’s perfect for you, and your boyfriend’s a loser. Dump him and give this other guy a chance.” (The guy is definitely loaded and my boyfriend supports himself well, but he treats me well and we make each other happy).

she’s gotten to the point where she’s literally taken my phone out of my hand and texted my boyfriend from my phone making really ridiculous demands on him (like demanding he get me a Louis Vuitton bag for my birthday which I know he can’t afford). She’s caused some bad fights between us this way.

I’ve tried telling her to butt out but she doesn’t. She’s dating a guy who is 25 years older than us and is trying to push me to date much older as well. My boyfriend is early 40’s, like me. Nothing wrong with dating older men, but if I’m happy why can’t she just butt out?

He's really nice to me but I found out that he write vile misogynistic on internet like saying :

"Only purpose of women is for sex"

He's also very racist especially against Muslim and Black. Said he would never date a woman if she dated one fo those saying they're whore and traitor.

He also commented on how he had sex with a 15 years old when he was 25 and how having sex with a woman inebriated is ok and not rape.

I'm not sure what to think of it because while he have said such horrible things he's the sweetest to me and have never been mean to me.

I went to his country for Holliday but he want me to stay permanently, said I could find a job easily but I don't speak the language neither can I read the words because they don't use latin letters. He told me I could easily learn it fast.

I'm confused what to do because I love him and even though he made mean comment, he never ever treated me badly or yelled at me or anything.