After a Relationship Ends: I Miss You Even Though I Don't Love You

[Anonymous]

Breaking up is not an easy thing. Sometimes the most complicated feelings come not at the moment the relationship ends, but much later. Missing someone even though you know you don't love them anymore... Isn't this a strange feeling?

One day you wake up and there is no longer that excitement in your heart. Your desire to talk to him is gone, as is the excitement you felt when you heard his voice. But suddenly your eyes catch a glimpse of a couple you saw on the street, or an old photo on your phone suddenly appears before you. That's when... You say, "I guess I miss you." But who? Him? Or the old "you" from that relationship?

I think most of us miss the habit more than the person. The series we watched together, the silly conversations after breakfast, the quick response when you texted us at night... Those little things were what connected us, but after a while, those same little things could turn into big problems.

The truth is, that stopping loving someone doesn’t mean forgetting them completely. Sometimes, missing them isn’t about the love, but the bonds you’ve built over time. Maybe you’re not missing the person, but the moments you spent together.

So how do you deal with this feeling? Here are a few things I often remind myself of:

1. Don't be angry with yourself, it's normal to feel that way. Missing someone is part of human nature. Accepting this feeling instead of suppressing it is the first step to healing. Don't beat yourself up by saying, "How come I still miss you?"

2. Face the truth. Remember why the relationship ended. Realize that what you miss may have been a romanticized version. Maybe you weren't happy with that person, just afraid of being alone.

3. Change your routines. Do the things you used to do with him/her by yourself or with people you love. New habits overshadow old habits.

4. Come back to yourself! Rediscover the parts of yourself that you have lost or neglected in your relationship. New hobbies, new goals... Getting to know yourself again is the best way to heal.

5. Everything gets easier with time. The feelings that are heavy today will one day turn into memories that make you smile. Healing takes time, but it will definitely come.

After all, missing someone even though you know you don't love them isn't a weakness, it's a human thing. And experiencing that feeling also helps it pass.

What about you? Have you ever missed someone you didn't love anymore? How did you get over it?

[nawtee_me]

Part of healing is recognizing the feelings and working through them. For us we did not stop loving one another. We were just no longer “in love” with one another. We were together for many years and had more good times than bad. We made a lot of good memories together. How can anyone just throw that away? We couldn’t! Our love for one another kept those thing special and we remained friends even to this day. We have gone our separate ways because we are no longer in love with each other but our friendship last because we do still love each other. They say that people aren’t capable of unconditional love but I tell you that the definition of unconditional love is loving someone enough to want their happiness even if that happiness comes from someone else. My ex and I experience that first hand as we still talk often. She has remarried and I have a girlfriend. We have moved on and remain loving friends knowing that it was the best thing for us both. It really does come down to choices that you make.

[nawtee_me]

Thanks for the MHO

[Finchie40]

I don’t miss the love we shared , because if it was actual love , we would still be together , but I do sometimes miss the times we shared , when something reminds Me of them that we experienced together , but it’s definitely not Love , Couples that actually Love each other , don’t break up

[Jay-_-]

I try to remember all the good things in my life now, all the obstacles I faced with just me and God and who I was then and who I am now, what me and that person had they we're good memories, that's all it was.

[insatiable_curiosity]

I really needed this. Thanks!

[bddddd]

I have never stopped loving someone

[Anonymous]

Not easy