What you do when you don't truly love yourself

[LittleSally]

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  You find it hard to believe in yourself.

  
  

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  You criticize yourself constantly.

  
  


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  You believe that you are unworthy.

  
  


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  You are excessively hard on yourself, but find it easy to be lenient towards others.

  
  


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  You have got low expectations for yourself.

  
  

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  When you look in the mirror, all you can notice are your flaws, imperfections and faults.

  
  


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  You neglect self-care for instance, not caring about your eating habits, not putting up a neat appearance and so on.

  
  


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  You often operate out of a fear of rejection.

  
  


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  You cannot function well in social groups.

  
  


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  You downplay your gifts, talents and abilities.

  
  

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  You have low self-confidence.

  
  

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  You feel lonely over long periods of time.

  
  


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  You suffer from bouts of depression or sudden and inexplicable bouts of sorrow.

  
  


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  You constantly crave the approval of others.

  
  


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  You dull pain and feelings of unworthiness through addictive behavior such as smoking, sex and shopping.

  
  

REMEMBER:

You should be your best friend! ^-^

[Doffydood]

I more or less tick the boxes for all of them except the last four.
That's probably a bad thing, hahaha :/

[LittleSally]

Check out my MyTake about self love, then. =)

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22356-learn-to-love-yourself

[Doffydood]

I appreciate the gesture, but I don't think there's much I can do about it. :)
Honestly I've just learned to live with it. I'm not going to sugarcoat things, if I'm not good at some things, I'm not good at them. There's no point in trying to force myself to love myself- I don't expect anyone to love me and if they do, they don't know me as well as I know me. Don't get me wrong, I am good at some things- I got 7 As and 4 Bs in my exam results. But that makes me look better than I actually am. I struggle in A Level maths, I can't look my family/friends in the eye, I can't put my hand up in classes because I'm afraid of teachers, I'm afraid to start a conversation with anyone I don't know well, every time someone laughs I come up with a hundred theories of how they could be laughing at me.

What I'm basically trying to say is, and I know this sounds stupidly depressing - I don't think anyone needs to love me, as for everything I can do, there are plenty of people that can do it better.

[Doffydood]

Uh... sorry about lumping that all on you.

[zombiebabe]

those points makes sense... to me :(

[523206720]

Well the bible says that humility comes before honour. There is productive self-criticism and there is unproductive self-criticism. Productive self-criticism is personal and makes you more independent while unproductive self-criticism makes you more dependent on other people. Think of approval as a well that is never satisfied - the more attention you get - the more you crave which is why attention is not what you need when you crave attention all the time. What you need is self-actualization, self-confidence, and a refinement of your desires and wishes in life. this can be achieved by looking for different methods of self-empowerment. I empower myself by listening to Mozart, visiting greenhouse gardens, babysitting children, hanging out with my dog, getting into religious or philosophical discussions for myself, generating gratitude lists, going on health kicks every couple of weeks or so, socializing with people, listening to inspiring music, reading nobel prize speeches, and doing research on humanitarian organizations or reading books on heroic people in history. I also gather quotes, and make scrapbooks. you need to nourish your heart and soul with positive things and words. I would advise you to look for free spiritual resources like the chabad mailing lists. I am not Jewish but i find their teachings to be uplifting. You also need to establish clear boundaries between yourself and others. I also interpret my own dreams and interpret other people's dreams as well. Keeping a journal can also help.

[iamyourneighbor]

I would like to see a companion mytake to this that shows how you think one could learn to love oneself

[LittleSally]

Hmmm yeah, I was thinking of writing that.

I will. =)

[LittleSally]

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22356-learn-to-love-yourself

Done. =)

[RedRain]

Very accurate! This info is very important because ackowledging the problem is the first step to solving it.

[fiodor99]

lol still trying to save the world? you might fail at it but i admire your persistence. thumbs up for that.

[LittleSally]

Haha Why thank you. =)

P. S.
I understand your view...

[SirenDep]

If you hate yourself, it means it's time to become a better person, a better version of yourself, if you will.

[jjmarvin]

Oh hey you found my diary

[LittleSally]

Haha Awwww =)

[jjmarvin]

Lol i guess I'm doing better now. Gag has really helped me find support for things i thought made me a useless freak. I really heard the first ever empathetic words about some of my flaws here. So I'm trying really hard to believe them and crawl out of this hole

[LittleSally]

Good for you. =)

[Nathand]

i'm not that stupid.

its shouldn't be that hard to think for ones self.

[QueenofSexyFoxes]

Best myTake ever. Nicely done LittleSally :0

[Omar5881]

I love this take lol

[LittleSally]

I hope it helps you in some way.

[93stepsawayfromhome]

Well shit I can identify with almost all of these

[LittleSally]

You're a teenager - it's normal. =)

[LordZero]

Keep playing League of Legends.