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There is this young woman in my young adult singles church group named Lindsey. She is a short, petite girl. She is in school studying to become a Physician's Assistant (PA) and has one year left to go until graduation. She is the shy type, and when I see her at church events, she is usually with a group of other girls. I would say she is in her mid 20s, or at least approaching her mid 20s.

Do you think she has ever had a boyfriend before? Also, do you think she is probably a virgin too?

My girlfriend Bianca acts like she’s not into me. For example, when people ask us how we met. She tells people “I didn’t wanna date him but my friend Becky told me to”. When that’s not even the truth. She’s the one who approached me and said “we should hang out”.

Bianca makes me feel like a simp. She acts like she’s not into me. She rarely has interest in sex. She says it turns her off how I breath so hard n deep during sex. We have sex once a week if I’m lucky. Then she acts like she’s doing me a favour because we have sex. Bianca always shows interest in other dudes and she’s not affectionate like I want her to be.

Feeling so emotionally neglected, I broke up with Bianca and immediately started a relationship with a girl named Shelly. Shelly was the best thing that happened to me in so long. The sex was amazing, she’s very affectionate, and she makes me feel like the man. But, the only problem is, Shelly lives in another city. She wants me to move to her city but I hate the city she lives in. It’s too crime infested, I know I can’t live there. And Shellys not willing to move her either. So Shelly is not forever.

A month after I started dating Shelly long distance, Bianca called me crying in the middle of night. Saying that she misses me and wants me to come over. My dumbass went back to Bianca and now I’m juggling two girlfriends. I’m emotionally tied to Bianca and sexually addicted to Shelly. If Bianca was giving me the love, sex, and affection I wouldn’t be messing with Shelly. I can’t drop either of them. What do I do?

A few days ago I was talking on the phone with a close friend of mine from the last place I lived. I was telling him about this new girl I’m seeing and he asked, “Is she the only one?” I asked him what he meant by that.

He said that he was only telling me this because he “cared about me”. He said that not too long after I moved away, 1 girl I used to have feelings for had a gathering with him & several people to talk shit about me. They said I was too thirsty, the girls didn’t know which one of them I really wanted, & I didn’t make any of them feel special.

I lived in this city for 4 years & tried to get to know 5 different girls over time, not all at once. The girl who hosted this talk is the 1st I liked. She rejected me, I moved on.

The 2nd girl approached me first and made the first move. I talked to her 2 months after the 1st turned me down. The 2nd girl curved me & the 3rd girl approached me 3 months later. I talked to her until she popped up with a new boyfriend so I left that alone. 3 months after that, the 4th girl sat on my lap at a dinner party and we talked for 4 months before I even asked her out and when I did, she got upset because it wasn’t a group date then ghosted me. A year & a 1/2 went by until the 5th girl snatched my phone to take a picture with me and we talked until she was no longer interested.

While I was talking to each of these girls, I wasn’t talking to anyone else. My only focus was the current girl at the time. None of these girls are even close friends besides the 3rd and 4th girl.

Their ultimate conclusion was that they didn’t want to have the reputation of being “the 1st to give me some” or “the one I finally got”. My friend agreed with them, but he wasn’t acting like this when I was living there. He seems fake to me. Part of me is glad he told me, then the other part of me wants to cut him off for co-signing their bullshit. Is he real for telling me or did he stab me in the back?