Search Results: how often do you think about a girl

The last time I ever the word “slut” being used consistently was way back in HS in the late 90s. I realize it might have been a zeitgeist a the time. However I do remember girls having their own set of negative labels for men like “creep” readily available back then too.

However ever since college I’ve noticed more and more women liberally using the word “creep” with no justification other than just getting a bad “feeling” from a guy. The even worse insult “pedo” is becoming more common too. Just today a woman on GAG suspected that her “virtual friend” might be a potential pedo/rapist just because the guy mentioned his stepdad abused his stepbrothers. She seriously thinks that pedophilia might be genetic.

Anyway I hear fewer and fewer men throw out gender specific insults to women nowadays. Especially if they unprovoked. Men know women usually get most upset when they are unfairly labeled promiscuous. Feminists have gone one/way ape shit when men (and other women) used this insult. I think it’s working because I’ve noticed fewer and fewer female specific insults like “slut, whore and cunt” being consistently used nowadays

However I do hear women call men (and even call other women) nasty insults like “creep” or worse “pedo” with no proof other than a “feeling” they have.

It also seems that when men are unfairly labeled something they almost zero recourse. If they get angry they just look more guilty or something.

Even when one of the worst of the worst insults like “pedo” used more often against me nowadays against men and there is a double standard attitude about it. Like the man is somehow justifiably labeled that due to “a feeling” a woman has (different story if there is solid proof). Like her feeling in itself justifies and vindicates whatever “feeling” she has as absolute truth or some insanity.

Is it just me observing this societal trend?

I’ll just make a list:

* Smiles and waves first whenever she sees you and looks down
* Looks at you from afar but often I just catch her looking away or sits somewhere she can see you
* Chatty and bubbly and asking questions one day and quiet and not very ‘into the conversation’ the next? Like short answers, quiet etc. Also fiddling with stuff like a phone but not actually using it. Just tapping some buttons quickly and putting it down. This was when she was quiet.
* Sometimes only does a slight smile, rather than full-on belly laughing, when telling a joke or saying something in a humorous way
* Shows you photos of stuff on their phone
* Plays with hair and then turns and looks right at you (knew I was in the room beforehand)
* Tells you about some of their likes and dislikes (music, favourite weather, pets, future plans)
* Open body language - feet pointing towards me, arms aren’t folded but by her sides, sits straight
* More confident when with friends
* When talking, makes eye contact for a few seconds and then looks down or to the side whist talking and smiling a bit
* Always facing you (whole body and feet) when talking and standing

Bonus one:
* Tried to talk to me first many times in the past (but I didn’t pay much notice at the time as I was occupied with so much stuff at the time) A few of those past interactions she was fine talking and others she was quiet.

^ This above one makes me think she’s liked me for a while and usually, I’d imagine a introverted girl or a shy girl wouldn’t try to get a guys attention anymore than twice before giving up. She’s tried like… 6 times since October last year.

FYI - I’ve already gotten past the approach barrier and we’ve spoken a few times recently for about 25 minutes each time.

Any input is welcome and thank you in advance girls and guys!

just something I read online, wanted to see what y'all think

So there's this girl at work I like, but I don't see her very often due to our shifts differing quite a lot. I've had one or two brief conversations with her in real life, which went well I think, but none over text. I have her phone number because we're both in the company groupchat of our local establishment, and I honestly don't want to wait again untill I see her next time, and even then, I might chicken out. It's just so much easier over text, and I know it's a valid approach, so why not do it?

My problem is, would it seem too random/forced if I shoot her message out of nowhere, with no prior text conversation? Should I just immediately ask her out, or start with small talk first? If I start with small talk, what the hell would I even begin with? I have no idea. This is too difficult.

Also, I'm kinda afraid that if I do get rejected, the whole mood at work will be awkward once I share a shift with her again. Is this reason enough to not even go through with it?