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Got dumped by my girlfriend of a year in December. Struggled the first few weeks, but my focus on mental health recently (over last 2 years) has made this breakup much easier than others.
Anyway, I’ve known this girl for about 18 months now, and for the last 2 weeks, we’ve been semi flirting and having great times when we’re together. Never really hung out until mid January too. Just last night, we watched movies until 4 am, just cuddling the entire night before she slept at my place. We woke up and I made each other breakfast. We spent the entire day together, as she’s kinda sick, doing the same thing as the night prior.
I found out that the reason for her fatigue and cold is likely because she has stage 2 ovarian cancer. She wasn’t the person who told me that either, and i don’t really know what to say about that.
Anyway, I have never felt more infatuated in a person than I do now. Her laugh warms my heart, her hands make me feel connected, humor to make me wheeze, and beautiful, welcoming eyes that seem to truly see me. I was cuddling with her and feeling completely in the moment, an experience that is often fleeting and rare for me. I could really feel the endorphins rushing through my veins. And this time, it wasn’t in a lustful manner. I suddenly had this overwhelming desire just to be there and comforting - not that I didn’t want to have sex (nor do I think it is possible given her illness), but that it wasn’t on my mind at all. For the first time in a while, I was at peace.
I just don’t know what to do. I don't know how we’re go from not spending practically any time together to spending nearly 24 hours straight together. I want to take things slow and be as communicative and supporting as possible, but I am generally introverted and non-assertive. Any advice would be appreciated.
This is also a half rant to get my thoughts out.
Anyway, I’ve known this girl for about 18 months now, and for the last 2 weeks, we’ve been semi flirting and having great times when we’re together. Never really hung out until mid January too. Just last night, we watched movies until 4 am, just cuddling the entire night before she slept at my place. We woke up and I made each other breakfast. We spent the entire day together, as she’s kinda sick, doing the same thing as the night prior.
I found out that the reason for her fatigue and cold is likely because she has stage 2 ovarian cancer. She wasn’t the person who told me that either, and i don’t really know what to say about that.
Anyway, I have never felt more infatuated in a person than I do now. Her laugh warms my heart, her hands make me feel connected, humor to make me wheeze, and beautiful, welcoming eyes that seem to truly see me. I was cuddling with her and feeling completely in the moment, an experience that is often fleeting and rare for me. I could really feel the endorphins rushing through my veins. And this time, it wasn’t in a lustful manner. I suddenly had this overwhelming desire just to be there and comforting - not that I didn’t want to have sex (nor do I think it is possible given her illness), but that it wasn’t on my mind at all. For the first time in a while, I was at peace.
I just don’t know what to do. I don't know how we’re go from not spending practically any time together to spending nearly 24 hours straight together. I want to take things slow and be as communicative and supporting as possible, but I am generally introverted and non-assertive. Any advice would be appreciated.
This is also a half rant to get my thoughts out.
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That's horrible and I am sorry to hear about this. Hopefully, she will be comfortable telling you. I would not hint that you know or change your ways. She wants to have fun and not your pity and that is probably why she doesn't want to say anything. Try to let her do this on her own terms.
Here's my take... it sounds like you're really taken by her and that you both really enjoy being together. It's a big shift going to spending all of your time together, but it also doesn't seem that you mind it. You didn't say anything that makes me think you're being more assertive than you're comfortable with. I'd say that you should let it take its course. If she's comfortable being with you this much and you're happy being with her, this could be a really good thing.
Just be there for her. You both get something out of it. My grandmother had it, but nothing could be done back then. I hope your girl does well with treatment and makes a full recovery.