Am I just a friend or is she afraid?

[Expressomantini]

Basically I began seeing a girl from work over a year ago and we hit it off. We weren't anything serious but we got along really well and made out often. Eventually we admitted feelings for eachother which when things changed. She clearly wasn't comfortable cuddling or holding hands, never admitted any feelings again for me and when I'd ask to hang out it suddenly became something she had to think about. She started to become cold and distant around friends to me and the closer we began to bond, the further she pushed me away. She hated everything about me and thought I was needy and weak when I tried to be caring. I was so shocked because she's never been like this. She then started downplaying everything saying we weren't dating. We fell out and stopped talking. Couple months later we meet at a party and she's sweet again, we hit it off and then go back to mine and have sex for our first time together. She apologised for how she played hard to get and was very cuddly and loving with me. Next morning was the same, she was very affectionate and cuddling and then suddenly she became cold and distant. One minute she was on about we could go for lunch and come back to mine and watch a movie and then suddenly she had to leave. I then became her only friend she got a present for and we began hanging out casually. She said she only sees me as a friend now and thinks it's better that way and I have to respect how she feels, but recently she's let me touch her a lot, she's began to open up and said she has issues with intimacy etc, she has began touching me again, she thinks everything I say is funny, she plays with her hair, acts goofy, giggles, spends all her time with me and looks at me lovingly and teases me. I almost feel like its the girl I fell in love with again, yet everytime it seems like sparks and feelings are returning she does a 180 and calls it a day. Is there a way I can get her to accept that I'm who she likes? What can I do, because I'm so confused

[Anonymous]

I can't tell you what you should do, but I can tell you what I would do.
I'd keep my heart on lock around this girl, and remain neutral.
Don't get overly attached or overly offended when she shuns you. Just ride it out, like a nice cruise down central.
I'd see her when she wants, have sex when she wants, and pretty much leave her alone any other time.
If it turned into something serious and it was obvious she was falling for me, I'd take it from there.

But for now there's not much you can do with a girl when she's in that state.