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So me and my long term boyfriend have gotten into a small argument over an upcoming birthday party for one of his family members. Pretty much he wanted me to go with & I told him there’s not many family events I’m going to be attending in the future (except major ones like Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.) given the fact that every time we go out some where he leaves angry, accusing me of embarrassing him and asking why I said/did certain things. And ultimately being upset that I made him look/feel stupid. He also cares a lot what others think of him (even his own family) which I think stems from his father always calling him dumb when he was growing up. Nonetheless, I am always blindsided and confused as to how we both had two different perceptions of the event. I feel as if everything I said was fine & warranted and friendly reaction from

his family & his thoughts are completely opposite. So am I wrong for not wanting to attend an event that I know will have a bad outcome & diminish my self- esteem?
He is not like this at all when it is just us two or he’s with my family. Also, I told him all of this & his perception is that I don’t want to put in effort, or it’s my own fault for my own insecurities. But at some point in the beginning of our relationship I felt really confident & loved being around his fam.

I also don’t know if I should just give up on us, I have a hard time letting go of things & I already have so much resentment built up that I don't know if I’ll ever look at him the same, especially because he is not very apologetic about the whole situation. I find that shitty, given I put all my effort into making him feel comfortable and good about himself. He has embarrassed me before but I would never think to tell him that.

Pros:
- Very thoughtful towards my family and spends time with them, pays for them when going out
- Loves me, always checks up on me and takes care of me.
-We also have fun joking around and talking to each other
- Sometimes surprise me with snacks so I don't stress out too much in school
-Very good with kids and always trying to make me happy when I communicate my needs and
concerns

Cons:
-Doesn't have similar interests together (I like sightseeing, exercising, and going out, he likes staying home and spend time with fam)
-Doesn't have a stable career or any ambition
(Makes minimum wage and tells me he will find a better job but nothing changed after a few years,
I'm still in school trying to become a nurse)
-Incompatible sex drives (I get sex deprived bc we only have sex when he wants it and we don't do it as much)
- Doesn't prioritize me (last minute cancelled on my bday bc he doesn't want to do what I want to do and is tired that day)

Overall it's not a bad relationship. He's a very sweet guy but sometimes I don't feel like we're compatible and lately, I feel like im slowly falling out of love. Especially since he's not even trying to improve himself with a better career. But then at the same time I still have so much love for him and don't want to regret leaving him. We've been together for a couple years so I don't know. Is this relationship worth staying in or should I find someone more compatible?

My boyfriend and I (who are in a long distance relationship - please don’t judge - ) have this mutual online male friend that will not let me use any kind of affection towards my boyfriend in his discord server. I used to have feelings for our mutual male friend, but realized it would never work out and got over him. I then began dating my boyfriend and our male friend tried to make my boyfriend look like the bad guy and made me look like the innocent one in every little conflict that he’d create in his mind as a problem even though there was none. It seemed like he tried to break us up, even going as far as asking me out on April Fool’s Day.

Now he won’t let me use “affections in the chat” as he likes to say. I get why he says it to this one female friend of ours because she’s kinda obsessed with him, but I can’t call my own boyfriend babe. I have to use his real name. He won’t even allow me to go on discord voice chat when my boyfriend goes into discord voice call. I am starting to get very irritated by this and I don’t know what to do.

*Note: he has a girlfriend by the way*