I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now. The other day I asked him does he feel that he can be honest to me about anything and talk about anything. He told me no he doesn't. He said he feels that women take the things that you say and use it against you as weapons eventually. He has been cheated on in 2 of his past relationships and his last girlfriend he told her his childhood abuse story and during a argument that occurred at a later date she bought up his childhood abuse and used against him to hurt him and make him feel bad. I have not done these things. I feel bad that he had to experience these things and I feel sorry for him. I feel like I am paying for the other females before me. How do I make him feel comfortable and safe with me so that he opens up naturally? How do I get him to feel safe and comfortable to be honest about anything and feel like he is able to talk about anything with me?
How do you build trust and comfort to get your boyfriend to open up who has been hurt in the past?
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Do not send long emotional text. Do not push emotional issues and stress upon him. Demonstrate that you love him. You can not make it happen any quicker but you can slow it down significantly.
Thank you for your input. I was wondering will I ever be able to send emotional texts or talk to him about emotional issues?