My boyfriend says he prefers how I looked two years ago. Should I try to look more like I did back then?

[Ihatemakingdecisions]

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, we've only seen eachother in pictures and videos, we haven't met yet.

Today he joked about how i catfished him. It was a passing comment but it kinda stuck with me.

When we first shared pictures, i didn't have any recent ones good enough to send, so i chose one that i loved but it was taken five months before. And i have changed a lot since then, I've lost a lot of weight, I've been stressed. I feel like i look better now but he doesn't seem to think so.

He said that if he had a time machine, he'd go back in time and freeze time forever to be with the most beautiful girl he's ever seen. He doesn't call me beautiful very often so that kinda hurt.

He then advised me to take care of myself and get back to looking how i used to look. I tried talking about it again hoping he'd catch on and at least lie that i look good even now. But he still stuck to his opinion.

I just feel really bad

[Guy13]

I am afraid you are going to learn a lesson the hard way. One has to establish boundaries and they have not been from the beginning. You are not in a relationship because someone gives you attention via a computer. None of this is real as you have never met in person and spent even 6 months together in the same place.

It sounds like to me he is already looking for a younger version of you to replace you now. This is very strange and question how well that you even know this man you are dating from a distance. If I were you, I would not be involved with this individual but that is me. Perhaps, you should talk with your Mom and see what she thinks?

[boggboss]

U should look how u want to aslong as its healthy to be fair you are both stupid him for making the comment and u for bringing it up again hoping he would lie

[Anonymous]

No because that would make you 15 and it’s weird that he’d find that sexually appealing as you two are nearly 18 (assuming he isn’t already that age or older). You are only getting older, soon to be an adult and he should fetishize what you wore or how you acted as a kid.

[Ihatemakingdecisions]

Maybe he's saying that because he feels like i look unhealthy now? Like he told me I'd look better with more skin on my bones. I'm not that skinny though, I'd like to loose a few kgs more, and i don't think it's unhealthy because I'm working out and eating good.

Should I bring this up again with him or no?

[Opinion Owner]

I’d like to give him benefit of the doubt and assume that’s what he meant. But in any case, you shouldn’t be with a guy who makes you feel down about your looks. As women we can already be hard enough on ourselves as it is without having the person who is supposed to lift us up, tear us down instead. There’s nothing wrong with your body now, you should be with someone who loves you through all your changes. Of course you don’t look like you did at freakin 15, that’s a kids body and as you get older your body changes, it is NORMAL.