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I hate to say it but as man I usually have my mind made up within 30 seconds of meeting a woman of how physically attracted I am to her.

Emotional attraction does still weigh heavily into it though. She can be hot af but if I can’t stand her personality and/or she’s has no genuine interest in me I can move on. I can also move on a lot faster nowadays vs. when I was younger.

But the issue is often come across women I find that are 5’s or 6’s. They aren’t repugnant or anything but I don’t feel any butterfly’s in my stomach either. More often than not they really like me because while I am nice to them I also don’t bend over backwards for them either. I’m just as happy to be there or not be there. Either way is fine. So it’s easy to be myself.

But as a man I find that the ugly truth is I have never found myself growing in attraction for average looking women despite some of them having excellent personalities. I really have tried to “check myself” on this. Tell myself to look deeper. Tell myself to “grow up”. Feel guilty af about it.

But if tried to force myself to date and commit to average looking yet great personality girls in the past. It always ends in disaster. I quickly lose interest in sex and find myself having less patience about their problems. And I know that’s not fair at all.

Is it possible for a man to slowly fall in love with a woman he isn’t attracted to?

I am asking this because I have an opportunity to get married to an average looking girl who is outstanding in all other ways. She’s a very hard worker, respectful, excellent personality, moderate conservative, has no vices, etc. She’s also younger (27) yet mature and independent.

Yet she has a rather unattractive face and I feel Iike complete shit saying that. She’s was born with that those facial features and has zero control over them. I keep kicking myself not to judge that but it’s hard.

A NIGHTCLUB has banned staring without getting "verbal consent" - and hired "safety officers" in pink vests to police revellers.

The venue also asked clubbers not to turn up if their "sole purpose" for their night out is the meet someone to "pick up".

Club 77 in Sydney said managers will call the cops if clubbers stare at others without getting their consent.

And in an Instagram post, the club said "safety officers" in pink vests would enforce the new staring rules.

The fresh policy states that "Club 77 is not a place to come to if your sole purpose is to 'pick up'".

It added: "If you do come in and are approaching multiple people or giving unwanted attention to someone, you are going to attract the attention of our security, who have been instructed to stop this kind of behaviour."

The club said it was happy people to "interact with strangers” but "any engagement MUST begin with verbal consent".

Staring was highlighted as one form of harassment in the club's new safety and harassment policy.

The venue suggested clubbers could be booted out if they simply glanced at another person and they took offence - and the cops could be called.

“If you are, for example, staring at someone from afar – if the attention you are giving someone is unwanted, that is considered harassment," the club said.

“If you’re being harassed by another person or receiving unwanted attention, please seek them out or tell our staff immediately.

"We adopt a policy of ‘always believe the report’ in cases of harassment and feeling unsafe.

"If we receive reports of any behaviour that has made someone feel uncomfortable, the reported individual will be removed from the venue and the police will be called."

Social media users jumped to support the new policy.

One said: "Amazing!!! Positive party culture all the way!"

Another wrote: "Backing this 100 per cent."