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Sorry, I posted this question earlier but didn’t really put any context in it.

I have a crush on a coworker. We have a flirty relationship and we get on really well. We have been there for each other through difficult times. He has shown mild jealousy at times and is affectionate outside of work when we’ve had a few drinks. He was the one who organised my birthday presents and card (for my 30th)

Recently, on a night out, I admitted to him that I like him more than a friend. I asked him if he felt the same way and he kept saying “you’re a lovely person”. When I asked him to answer the question, he said “yes I do” and sounded annoyed.

He was hot and cold with me at work after that but things have gone back to normal. In fact, when I was on holiday, one of our coworkers asked if he misses me and he said straight away “it’s very quiet”

Today, we were just chatting and it was just the two of us. I said to him “well you clearly hate me a lot” to which he said “yes…. immensely”

I’ve heard guys say the opposite of what they really mean when teasing. Was this him saying that he likes me?

Im normal weight (size 6) and this dude I slept with and wanted to see me desperately the next day said he couldn’t go on pursuing me because I’m too big for him and he needed someone skinnier so he would look dominant since he himself is quite slim (but at 6 foot 4 also quite tall). I was really upset about this and when I looked through his Instagram followings I noticed he followed many really young looking women with pubescent bodies (many borderline anorexic) that don’t follow him back. His best friend disclosed that while he is a friendly guy he tends to be manipulative and exhibits stalker tendencies with women. He still watches all my insta stories and keeps glancing and staring at me when he sees me in public despite rejecting me. The dude is 26 and refers to women as girls. Is that normal? Am I overreacting?