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It's been said time and time again that it's not easy for most men to approach and flirt with a woman in public, and that even the most attractive confident men only have a 30 to 40% chance, at best, to impress a woman.

A 30 to 40% success rate still means rejection the majority of the time, and unlike in the pre-2000s, women nowadays tend to be a lot meaner and less empathetic about this than they used to (sorry, but it's true; a lot of y'all aren't nice).

Women also tend to not understand why only the most attractive, most ballsy 5% of men out there only hit on them, despite how many women will shout at, harass, curse out, or otherwise be viciously mean/rude to normal, decent men attempting to just get to know them better. (Not men being aggressive, rude, or not taking 'no' for an answer; just regular decent dudes.)

As a girl, are you the type to empathize with and understand just how hard it is for a guy (especially a not-handsome, not-fit, not-tall guy) to muster up the courage to ask a complete stranger to get to know him better and begin a potential relationship with him?

... Or are you the type of woman who will reject a guy loudly and rudely, because he was too short/ugly, wasted your time, or "couldn't see the tiny little wedding ring on your finger while you're holding your purse or phone" or something?

WHAT TYPE OF REJECTER ARE YOU WHEN IT COMES TO GUYS HITTING ON YOU?

Inspired by this question here.

This is what I am seeking in a woman:

• Ideally between the ages of 18 and 27 (although she can be slightly older if most or all other criteria match. 18 is the lowest because, of course, going any lower runs many risks legally and ethically, not because I don't want to per say)
• A REAL woman, not a transgender
• Ultimately desires marriage and a family (marriage doesn't have to occur immediately of course)
• Of course, desires to fall in love and have a romantic bond (not aromantic)
• Willing and able to bond via sex (not asexual)
• We are each other's first loves (she has no previous romantic bonds with a guy/never been in love... I am not talking strictly about virginity here)
• 5+/10 rank in physical attractiveness (a beautiful woman is a bonus, but not at all a deal breaker. She can be average in attractiveness... also I know this is subjective, but I am being general)
• Not black (I just never really was attracted to black women)
• Doesn't do drugs and is not an alcoholic

Some very desirable bonuses but NOT hardline deal breakers:

• She is a Christian
• She is white
• Has a good family background

About ME:

• I am 27, turning 28 in a few months
• I have never had a real girlfriend
• I have a decently good-paying job as a frontend software developer
• I currently live at home, but seeking independence when I can
• I am 5'6" in height
• I am average looking at best
• I own a decent car and a Class A RV
• I am very affectionate with women if given an opportunity
• I want to get married and have a family one day
• I am monogamous

Well, what do you think?

I am an American guy, white, and I make a decent income. I am 25 percent Polish, according to my ancestry.

My father is traveling to Poland in the future because he has a supplier he must meet there one day. There are no plans as of right now to travel there, but it is a possibility in the future.

I told my father I want to go to Poland when he travels there.

The girls there are amazingly beautiful. I have never had a real girlfriend myself (I am almost 28). I am wanting me and a woman to be each other's first loves.

Heterosexual Ladies of GAG: Here's a hypothetical man. I was told by one female user he'd be a good man. But is that true? If you were/are currently single... WOULD YOU DATE THIS GUY?

POSITIVE TRAITS:

- Very Respectful, to both you and everyone else. But will always treat you with respect.

- Has good Communication skills, both in public speaking and especially in communicating with you.

- Very Affectionate; romantic, very touchy, and compassionate towards you.

- Really Loyal; to both you and his friends and family. He's the most dependable, reliable guy around.

- Intelligent and highly resourceful. Can easily solve many life problems, as long as they're not social issues.

- Good Sense of Humor. Is witty to hysterical, depending on the time and situation.

- Ethical. An all-around 'good' person. Not a saint or angel, but does his best to be a decent human being.

NEGATIVE TRAITS:

- Short. Probably your height (5'8" or under) in shoes or shorter than you. Use your imagination.

- Average looking face. Probably a 4 or 5 in looks. Easily someone you would NOT find attractive or good looking at all!

- Broke. Only makes around $25,000 a year working full time. May or may not be in university.

- Out of shape. Use your imagination here, but I won't give specifics. Could have a Dad Bod (average-fat), could be stocky/chubby (overweight), or could be obese (290-360 pounds). Take a guess.

- Gamer. Enjoys video games. Plays games about 6 to 9 hours a week. For many, many women, a gamer is a dealbreaker.

- Lonely. Has been alone for a long time (life). Is the same age as you and born in the same year, but has never dated anyone and is currently a virgin.

- Small penis. Is less than 7 inches, but more than 3.9. Use your imagination for the maximum you'd consider "small."

SO, WOULD YOU DATE THIS MAN? (No, he's not me! Nice try.)

@Ms_Facesitter (The main inspiration for the question.)
@Passion_Devil
@Lucy68
@Starlight007
@7barbieringz

This question was taken from a response made by a 39 yr old male.

"Once you hit late 30s and beyond when even the last-minute panicky female leftovers are pairing off the power dynamic shifts 180 degrees and a man who is single and by all signs should be 'partnered away' because he is fit, trim, well-groomed, still has most of his looks, well-spoken, is working (not necessarily killing it but at least has some income), has hobbies, etc etc. He... will be met by women constantly trying to get him to settle with a leftover female: divorcee, handicapped woman, single mom, or some other similar aging female specimen.

A decent older man who maintains an air of carefree bachelorhood will be met with very hateful attitudes from women... ironically for different reasons than the hateful attitudes he experienced from them in his youth. Young, women enjoy it when the second- and third-tier males are 'put in their place' in the male pecking order as they view these guys as their fall-back options or 'plan B' if you will if they can't snag their dream man in time. They want these guys to experience a 'female drought' that would make them amenable to toe the feminine imperative of keeping an amply supply of thirsty back-up plans ready to put in the blood sweat and tears to get a taste of what the top dogs got for free.

But when those mid-level males become eligible for the 'female draft' so to speak (35+ on average) yet refuse to play the game (as it's dictated by female directives)... it pisses women off. Mightily. Especially when they see these older bachelor guys enjoy their hobbies, motorcycles, travels, etc etc, obviously relishing the single life. They'll do everything in their power to 'straighten him out' by saddling him with some aging cow to set an example to other would be mid-level male miscreants."