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I saw a necklace that a friend who has always been very helpful to me would like. I've never had any romantic feelings for her but I want to be an appreciative friend and return the kindness

I noticed over the years that women bring up height excessively more then men do. They not only talk about height in romantic scenarios but with platonic / professional interactions with men as well.

But every time women mentions a man being short, it’s almost always a negative connotation. Even if they like the short guy they will say something like “well he’s not very tall but he’s really cute or funny” or something.

But if a girl doesn’t something else about the short guy (his personality, looks, etc.) they virtually always bring up his height. Especially if they reject the man romantically.

But at the same time guys are less prone to say “well she’s really sweet & cool despite being overweight” out loud. We might be thinking that but we are not allowed by modern culture to say that because it’s “too mean” or something.

I am 6ft so fortunately height isn’t an issue for me. Like anyone I notice other people’s heights in most situations but I don’t immediately factor that into my judgment of people.

I once dated a girl who was 5’ 11’’. Despite my favorite female body type being cute, petite and athletic, her being tall and skinny was virtually a non issue for me. It did make things slightly more complex in bed (shorter girls are more versatile) But I didn’t really care that much. It was like factor number 37 out of 50 for me.

Also I don’t notice height at all in platonic and professional interactions with women or men. I don’t asume a really short guy or a really tall girl might have a negative personality right away. Some short guys do have napoleon syndromes. I’ve met a few short loud mouthed dbags. But overall that stereotype is often exaggerated.

I guess height judgment is evolutionary for females. But women need to understand that men have no control over their height whatsoever.

If you are more attracted to taller men then fine. But if you don’t like a shorter guy than don’t throw out his height as one of his “faults” like he had a choice in the matter.

I am a very late bloomer when it relates to romantic relationships and marriage. I didn't get my first real girlfriend until I was 29. I am now 30 and will soon marry this same girl. Me and this girl are each other's first real relationship. I was her first kiss and everything. She is 27.

I will say my parents are separated. I have an estranged sister who is 29 who has also alienated my parents. My mom has been really hurt by this, and my sister is refusing to attend my wedding despite being invited. To me, snubbing me and my bride at my wedding is irreparable (this is a entirely different discussion). All in all, my immediate family has been torn apart for years now. My separated parents live different places, and my mom still lives around locally.

I am staying at my mom's boyfriend's house tonight (long story... we are evicting a troublesome, leftist, nasty old tenant at my home that rents the downstairs), and my mom walks into the room I am sleeping in and hugs me while crying. My mom is a little sad I am growing up and getting married. She is happy for me, but I think with all the family turmoil and me moving on (I am a mommy's boy), it is hard on her a little.

A discussion recently occurred on r/Asianmasculinity, where an Asian male was talking about the complete double standards that Asian women have for Asian men and white men.

A snippet from OP discussion called "Different Dating Requirements for Asian vs. White Men"

"I’ve noticed that Asian women (ex. my female friends) hold Asian men to much higher standards—expecting them to have a car, a house, or a high income—while not requiring the same from white men. In addition, these women expect Asian men to pay for dates and experiences, but are fine to split with white men."

Many users were in the comment in agreement and even cited a Yale study that supported it

Yale sociologist Grace Kao: “In fact, we find that despite the higher education and income of Asian American men, there is evidence that they are systematically excluded from having romantic relationships during adolescence and young adulthood”

Some even explained why so many non-white women see white men as gods and chase after them in the west.

"Social status: white men in white circles gain immediate acceptance due to familiarity bias.

Pretty privilege: White men in Asian circles gain immediate acceptance due to pretty privilege (it is internalized that euro features are more handsome)

So in the eyes of a white worshipper, the white man already brings those values to the table by virtue of being white."

". Being with a white partner gives prestige that being with an Asian cannot. So Asian guys are required to compensate with material success.

Just stay away from these types of women and find someone who’s actually ride or die. I’m not saying don’t strive for success of course. But give it to someone who isn’t fucked in the head by internalized racism."