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Me and my ex boyfriend broke up about a month ago because he felt I wasn’t emotionally there for him anymore but I had no idea he felt this way I have this problem where when I finally get comfortable with someone I over share and tell them the most random stuff that has nothing to do with either of us and so the last couple days of our relationship I had been having hard days and so I went to him just to vent to him and I got so caught in my mental stuff that I forgot to ask him how he was doing and about two weeks prior to this I told him that I didn’t want to see him for a while because I wanted to finish the school year with minimal distractions spend some time with some of my friends that I don’t see very often and spend time with my family and he took this personally because he is over thinker and so it made him feel like I didn’t love him anymore but I totally did and do but my mom was also mad because he never really talked to my parents we would always just go into my basement and watch tv because he has social anxiety and our relationship with my parents was kind of lie because I met him on snap and I’m not supposed to have snap so I didn’t want to get in trouble so we made up a story on how we met and so that made it harder for us to talk with them and especially with his social anxiety and the lies it was just lie after lie and it was hard to keep track of what we said so I never forced him to talk to my parents but my mother was not fond of that so anyways things weren’t really the same after I said that and so he said he wanted to break up because it was kind of turning into a one sided relationship and so I feel like it’s all my fault is it? Sorry for not using proper English I don't know how to do that

"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?