My boyfriend went through my drawer and discovered my old psychological (not a good one) assessment, what now?

[Anonymous]

We've been together (live separately though) for 2 years now. There is part of my life I never really shared. For instance I never told him about getting expelled from a school as a kid, getting detained for a bit nor about my troubled upbringing with divorced parents. He visited me last week and while I was in the bathroom, we briefly went through one of my drawers (don't know why though) and that's where he found an old psychological assessment with the diagnosis. I was 10 at the time and supposedly the diagnoses were PTSD, conduct disorder, ADHD and mild bipolar traits.

Obviously he demanded an explanation for all that but I didn't really want to talk about it all. I've tried to bury all that. Then he started asking me a couple hard, sensitive questions I didn't feel like answering. Now he's upset I won't share it all. What now? I never wanted this to be found out. I wasn't even a teen at the time. Can I just live a normal life?

[naartjie]

Doesn’t sound like an issue to me? Sounds like he may be overreacting a bit in my opinion

[jahaims]

Dump him. Him Snooping is a giant red flag. He is in the wrong not you

[Iron_Man]

This is not a problem at all why are you ashamed? It’s nothing.

[Asker]

I did a couple bad things back then, more than just stealing or things kids do.

[Iron_Man]

Well I never saw you say anything about stealing and now you’re saying it’s worse than stealing that kids do so what’s troubling you

[Asker]

Yes it was bad enough to get expelled from school, kept away from other kids, jailed and referred to professionals for an evaluation.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know why you got jailed but I have been suspended from school for fighting and sometimes you get caught sometimes you don’t but I think it’s ridiculous that they take it that far that they actually suspend you for fighting

[Asker]

I know why I did those things though. It was my rocky upbringing, exposure to bad things to the point I got immuned and acted like a crazy person with no feelings back then.

[Iron_Man]

Well, I really don’t know what you did but try not to be so hard on yourself if you feel like talking to somebody, talk to the Lord, you can do that right now and he’ll forgive you

[Asker]

I set an unoccupied, park car on fire with a friend for no reason.

[Iron_Man]

Oh I see did it blow up or did some of it get caught on fire? is that why you got sent to jail? Talk to the Lord be sincere I will be forgiven is this when you were a teenager?

[Asker]

I was 10 back then. That's one of the main reasons. I didn't blow up. It was just burning badly and both my friend and I were standing there, laughing. I had issues back then. They got solved as the years went by and I received the help needed.

[Iron_Man]

That was a long time ago you were a 10 year old child. I wouldn’t even worry about that ever again you can still ask for forgiveness from the Lord

[Asker]

Thank you. I'll do so.

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome. I know you’ll do good in life. Thank you so much yourself.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the waves of an unexpected discovery, aren't we? Love, first things first, it's like opening Pandora's box when someone unexpectedly uncovers a piece of your past, especially one that's as sensitive as a psychological assessment. But remember, everyone has chapters in their life they aren't reading out loud all the time. 📚❤️

Your feelings of wanting to keep this part of your past buried are absolutely valid. It's like having someone flip through the pages of your diary when you're not ready to share. Yet, it's also important to understand that in relationships, such discoveries can unsettle the boat a bit. The curiosity from your boyfriend is natural, but so is your desire for privacy.

I'd suggest a middle path—opening up as much as you're comfortable with, without feeling forced to reveal every detail. Share that these were chapters in your life that helped shape you, but they don't define you. You've grown, evolved, and probably learned a ton since then. 🌱

It's alright to tell your boyfriend, "This is a sensitive topic for me, and I'm not quite ready to dive deep into it. Let's focus on who we are now and how we can build our future together."

If he truly cares, he'll understand and give you the space and support you need. And remember, love, it's perfectly okay to seek professional guidance together if navigating this conversation feels too choppy. After all, every good ship sometimes needs a bit of navigation to ensure it doesn’t drift off course. 🚢💖 Keep steering your ship with love and understanding, and remember, it’s always about the journey, not just the destination.