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So my girlfriend recently made a revelation that sort of blew my mind.

I kind of figured that women would wear only underwear under long dresses/skirts, and I was right, I saw my girlfriend getting dressed and that's what she did.

But the weather's gotten hot and the other day I saw her throw on a pretty short and flowy dress that hit only slightly longer than mid-thigh and rode up when sitting over her bra and underwear and then she... just put her shoes on and headed out that way. She didn't put on shorts underneath.

And the whole time I was out with her I kept feeling some second hand embarrassment for her. As if her underwear would be flashed in public in any minute. I kept paying attention to how the wind blew her dress. How it rode up when she sat and crossed her legs. When she climbed up stairs. Thankfully her underwear was never flashed.

When I brought this thing up of why she didn't wear shorts underneath her short dress she literally spit out her water at me and bursted out laughing. About how she never met another woman who does this.

And then I brought up embarrassment or underwear being flashed and she said that as long as you keep your legs together, squat instead of bending over to get something, lightly hold your dress in the wind, etc, no one should ever see your underwear anyway. And that even if anyone saw her underwear she wouldn't care anyway because she wears bikinis at the beach all the time and has bikini pics on her social media.

And honestly mind blown. I'm wondering if most women do what my girlfriend does because I genuinely don't know.

If she also said she’s been thinking about it and she realised she’s not getting what she needs out of a relationship. Never told each other “I love you” after a year together. And also said you can’t change someone and also said she’s felt more like friends recently. And she wants to stay friends but doesn’t see a future together as romantic partners.

I can’t get dates and I can’t get matches. I tried a new dating site and to my horror. Nil matches and activity. I went my whole life without a girlfriend
The older I become the more it seems less likely to happen. I work so hard that after work I feel exhausted and there’s no where to meet girls. I’ve given up alcohol too so that takes away a lot of socialising. Girls don’t even show any interest in me anyway. I feel like I would get more success if I were a gay man and not straight 🤦
Even if I were to meet a girl I don’t know how to date and move things forward. I question if dating has always been this impossible or if it is to do with modern abundance and quest for perfection, social media’s standards of a ripped body. Who knows…. but it seems way harder than getting my degree.