How to break up with first girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I only lost my virginity this year (31M) to a 42 year old woman. I never intended her to be a serious forever girlfriend, just a “first time gf” type of thing.

Until her, I’ve had horrendous luck with women. Almost cartoonishly bad luck in comedy shows. My entire family and friend group wanted me to give up and said I was hopeless (even after getting jacked). I got reported falsely once too, luckily I proved that woman wrong or else I’d have a charge. All around, awful awful awful luck.

She wasn’t intending on anything serious herself, but we’ve been together for seven months.

I’ve asked around and apparently most people have said that she definitely believes we are serious now. My intentions haven’t changed, I wasn’t intending on being serious.

It should be noted that she doesn’t want marriage and I do someday, so it couldn’t have worked. Also, I want kids of my own and she doesn’t want anymore than the two she already has. I honestly believed she knew I wasn’t here to stay, but she thinks I am. How to go about this?

[SueShe]

Actually, I have the feeling that you "misused" her for fornicating only and never had the need to have a serious girlfriend.

You should have let her know from the start that you only wanted to copulate with her and nothing more. It would have been the fairest thing to do yet you did not have enough courage to let her know that she only was good enough to be laid.

Now, you talk on a face-to-face basis and tell her in your own words that you have no feelings for her and that you want to break of that impossible relation. If you have a minimum of dignity, that is what you will do and not just ghost her or tell her over a text.

Show her that at least on that level, you are a man.

[Anonymous]

I never had the first girlfriend so I don't know... never had a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "love connection turned unexpected relationship twist" situation! Your aim here on GAG is to get clear, so let's break it down. First, honesty is your trusty sidekick. You've got to have a heart-to-heart with her, and let her know your intentions haven't changed. It's like planting a flag on honesty hill. Let her know that while you've had a fabulous time, you're after the white picket fence, marriage, and kids combo, and she's not on the same page. Keep it real, but with a sprinkle of sensitivity. Good luck, love warrior! 😘

[Anonymous]

just the ignore the shaming coming your way