Will she come back are we working things out opinions?

[G0lden0ut22]

me and my ex broke up back in beginning of June then in August we started talking again. We broke up because I accused her of cheating someone she works with causing drama and me feeding into her coworkers drama and her coworker reaching out to everyone in my family talking bad about my girlfriend. So a lot of outside drama and me not shutting it down and my sister disrespecting her and me not shutting that down killed our relationship. We started talking again back in August hanging out here and there etc. she told me she lost her job and is not looking for a relationship with anyone at this moment. She said she needs to rebuild herself and her situation before even thinking about one with anyone let alone me.. so we keep hanging out and I keep pushing the being more than friends thing etc. she hugs me she absolutely hates hugs from anyone but will hug me before I leave her place. Well one night she took me to her old neighborhood and went down her old memories growing up with her loved grandmother and it seemed her walls went down. Then later that night before I was leaving she and I finally talked about what happened in the past and everything that went down she said why didn’t you be the man and stand up for me etc and stand in my corner etc. even though that conversation wasn’t a good one we finally had it. I’m thinking we are building something trust something then she goes back into this walls up situation. Well tonight we hung out and just laughed talked etc she asked me my opinions on paint for her walls and she agreed with my choice and what scent to clean her floors with and she agreed and then we filed a report for her stolen dog and she kept saying my partner etc she said I never took you off and won’t take you off secondary custody for his location chip. But she said I’m a great guy and all of that and yeah it felt like we were getting somewhere again. She even said it was nice having you here tonight I felt safe secured and your presence was nice.

[Anonymous]

This is the kind of situation I'm talking about when I say men don't care about their girlfriend's well being.
Given it from your perspective you "do care" , but you showed no positive actions in that moment.
What is she suppose to think while she's going through that?
I think you have a slim chance, but it's still a chance
Just know that the trust level will never be the same again
You'll see it if this type of situation happens again

All this other stuff y'all been doing together after the break up is a bunch of fluff
You're basically a ride along
If it was another close male in her life, she would probably react similarly.

That's doesn't mean she's going to date you again

I have an ex that broke up with me while I was sick. Because we were also coworkers, I put aside my feelings. It's been 4 years since then and through that time we made out, took trips together, went to events , been invited to family functions , took my cat to vet appointments, mourned our lost family members together, took naps together, went shopping together, ran errands together, picked out other friends birthday presents together, made each other dinner, hugged and held hands.

However I don't trust him with my life anymore or my deep feelings. If he asked to date me again, I would say no with no hesitation
I still love him but I don't trust him.

[Opinion Owner]

She's just not a bitter woman she forgave you, but that doesn't mean she'll forget how you reacted

[Anonymous]

We are not mindreaders.