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As of recently, my popularity has dwindled on the dating apps & I’m unsure of the exact cause. Is it my age? As I look the same & I haven’t moved yet things went downhill a few months ago. I mainly use hinge & noticed this drought on all the other apps too, which makes me even more worried considering it seems to be across all platforms. Because of this, I’ve also been second guessing my decision to brush off the guys that previously showed interest in me. At the time I was somewhat interested in a few but either I wasn’t in the mood/doubtful because of negative dating app experiences I dealt with at that time/was too anxious. I question if I genuinely feel regret because this is a delayed reaction or if I’m reminiscing/liking the idea of them since things aren’t going my way at the moment. How can someone be told they’re “attractive” yet quality guys NEVER show them interest in person? If I got attention from these guys from the apps in person, maybe I wouldn’t be as anxious.

29F & I’ve always had this type of deep rooted anxiety when it comes to relationships, I’ve always been a loner & not the friendliest I suppose, to the point where I’m currently content with online/gamer “friends”. There’s this part of me though, that struggles with knowing I’ll never find romantic love. I’m very sure I’m only romantically attracted to men but in a way, I question at times if I really want to be with one long term. Let’s start with: I’m not very affectionate, I don’t trust easily, I get turned off quickly by “innocent” cocky or conceited banter, I’m very antsy about intimacy & not crazy about sex/masturbation to begin with. These might all seem like cop outs because I truly feel the right person will change how I feel about all these “issues”. As a woman I don’t think it’s that rare to not really have much of a sex drive, I keep hearing stories about other women in the same boat that meet their husbands & realize they weren’t “asexual” after all.

28F, only thing I know for certain is I have anxiety & my self esteem could be better. But, nothing too terrible that makes me incapable of finding a LTR. I’ve been on and off dating apps for years, I don’t get how they don’t work for me as it’s known women have it easier & people tell me I’m attractive (not just family/friends). I have to use the apps bc I never get approached in person, I get the matches but in the end it just doesn’t work out. The last time I saw someone I was 23 & that only lasted for a few months. It felt like settling & I’ve become even pickier now. I don’t really have that much of a sex drive but that isn’t something a guy can sense right off the bat so I don’t think that’s it. It’s like I wonder if I’m ready to date but ffs I’m almost 30 that’s odd if I’m not. I met up with someone for the first time in almost 2 years last week & I didn’t even stay for the whole time, I left after maybe 15 min bc I wasn’t feeling it (even though chatting went well on the app), I had a long day, wanted to leave before the drinks arrived since I didn’t want him to get charged & most of all I was worried he was gay (by his voice). I usually video chat before but moving fwd that’s non-negotiable. Oddly enough I still don’t think it’s my fault for being single this long, yes I’ve tried counseling/medication & it was a bust. Can an almost 30 yr old woman date while being anxious, insecure, reserved & close to being maybe on the asexual spectrum?

28F, yes I’m straight or if any other sexuality I’d be asexual. I download tinder 2 weeks ago & have been speaking to someone on it since. I took a chance & decided to not videochat/call him beforehand, lord I should’ve. He didn’t catfish me but I just got the vibe he is gay. He didn’t dress flamboyant, it was just the way he spoke. He seemed nice & after about 15 min I came to the realization that it’s tinder and I don’t owe him anything. The drinks took forever to come, I just told him I had a long day and something felt kinda off, it was nice to meet him, didn’t want him to waste his money on me & I dipped out. He was about to follow me out, I told him to stay put to make sure the waiter didn’t charge him but truthfully I didn’t want him to follow me to my car/look at my plate. He msged me after saying he wasn’t sure what happened & hoped I got home safe, I just deleted the app. Lesson learnt: moving fwd I’ll ALWAYS do a phone screening before meeting.

28F, yes I’m straight or if any other sexuality I’d be asexual. I download tinder 2 weeks ago & have been speaking to someone on it since. I took a chance & decided to not videochat/call him beforehand, lord I should’ve. He didn’t catfish me but I just got the vibe he is gay. He didn’t dress flamboyant, it was just the way he spoke. He seemed nice & after about 15 min I came to the realization that it’s tinder and I don’t owe him anything. The drinks took forever to come, I just told him I had a long day and something felt kinda off, it was nice to meet him & I dipped out. He was about to follow me out, I told him to stay put to make sure the waiter didn’t charge him but truthfully I didn’t want him to follow me to my car/look at my plate. He msged me after saying he wasn’t sure what happened & hoped I got home safe, I just deleted the app. Lesson learnt: moving fwd I’ll ALWAYS do a phone screening before meeting.

I've tried to be friends with women many times but it never lasts i dont know why lol. Im ugly as hell so no reason to feel competition.😭

It never works well. I have one male friend I've known almost my whole life that is Asexual and he prefers masculine people if he is gonna be with anyone but he doesn't care for sex. And my other best friend I've known for a few years prefer transwomen and femboys and he thinks im ugly as hell and Im not into him at all😂