I am 29 and never had a girlfriend. What options do I have left?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I am seriously stunted socially, especially when it relates to romantic relationships. I just turned 29 recently, and I have never had a real girlfriend and especially nothing serious. I cannot help but to question that something is seriously wrong. I lost my virginity 8 years ago during a weekend hookup and I haven't even kissed a woman since.

I wonder at this point if I am stuck with the "leftover" women. I wonder if I will be stuck with divorced women, single moms, and women with significant baggage and history at this point. I fear all the good women are taken already.

It is devastating to me because I have always wanted a girlfriend so badly ever since I was a child. I am not aromantic or asexual by any means.

[GreenLanternI0I]

I'm 36 I also never had a girlfriend, so you are not alone. I just excepted, truly and deeply excepted that I'm not a top 20%. I'm not 6.3, I'm not making $100,000K+ a year and I don't have a horse dick. So, ones I realized that, like really Really realized and understood that, my life actually became better and much more happier. I also REFUSE to grab leftovers, women who are 30+ years old who had more partners than I can count, or single mothers. So now I'm just living for myself. I got myself a car of my dream, soon I be getting myself a high end gaming PC, basically I'm entertaining myself to death. I don't look like John Stewart, but I'm definitely acting like a real man and not a SIMP or a woman worshiper.

[Asker]

I agree with you. I am not nearly the top percent, and I am also short in height at 5'7. I can't even compete. I don't want to settle for leftover women, especially because I have never fully given my heart to a woman before. Why would I want to give her the pleasure of being my first relationship when I am definitely not hers?

[GreenLanternI0I]

You are 100% Correct Good Man! when women already had 5+ partners all the special memories and happy thoughts were built and engrained in her with other 5+ guys (first kiss, different first sexual activities etc...) so why do you need to have a girl with whom you can't even create a special bond or special and personal memories.

[Bricealan]

No such thing as a 'left over woman", don't make that mistake, and let some good person slip out of your fingers. I DID THAT WHEN I WAS 29, AND REGRET IT TO THIS DAY ! Don't be stupid like I was !!!

You have to make yourself available as a good guy, and go from there. There are many good women in society, and you have to be willing to take risks to meet them and have a relationship.

[Anonymous]

You can stop posting questions about it every single day.

[Asker]

I haven't posted a question in weeks

[slatyb]

You sound stuck. A woman isn't going to fail from the sky into your bed. You have to make an effort to met someone. Get some counseling. Have you tried online dating? It worked for me but I was a bit older.

[Asker]

Online dating has been horrible.

[Drumlin2001]

At least you have some experience. I was 35 with no experience at all, not even first kiss. By 40 I was engaged with 2 kids. Life can change fast if you put the work in.
Work on yourself, and then be proactive in seeking someone

[Jdodkfndosn]

Set your sights lower for now. Practice with some uglies which should be easier. Then start moving up. Your issue is likely either confidence or inexperience. You get both by leveling up

[exitseven]

You make yourself the bet version of yourself that you can be and you go out and find a girlfriend.

[jahaims]

You are just one of those pity party guys. You feel too bad for yourself to get ahead in life. Thus you never having a girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Go to the gym, focus on money, work on yourself and don't try too hard to find a girl. You accidentally find the best people.

[Asker]

That is what bugs me. The dynamics of dating changes as I age. When you are young, you don't have money. Yet, boys get girlfriends and those relationships are one of the most memorable ones. I never got to experience young love. That is my biggest regret. Now, woman actually have materialistic expectations, and plus, it is nothing new to most of them now. I am likely not to be a woman's first love and there is no guarantee I will be the last. It is sickening the most intense and most memorable relationships are ones that develop during one's youth.

[zagor]

The same options you would have if you had had a girlfriend for 10 years who just dumped you.

[Anonymous]

I'll be that one in about eight years.

[Asker]

A lot can change in 8 years. Something tells me you are still really young. I am for certain 29 and in this situation.

[In_Trance]

go gay