Can I have a healthy relationship with an asexual person if I'm not asexual?

[sheperd]

[josie]

You can totally have a healthy relationship with an asexual person even if you're not asexual yourself. It's like any relationship, really – it's all about connecting on different levels beyond just the physical stuff.

First off, chatting things out is super important. You gotta be open about what you're cool with, what you're not, and what you're looking for in the relationship. And, of course, you need to listen to them too.

Then, there's getting what asexuality means for your partner. Some might be down for certain types of physical stuff, while others might be like, "Nope, not my thing." So, it's key to know where they stand.

The cool thing about relationships is they're not just about the physical side. There's all this other stuff – like shared hobbies, emotional support, just having a laugh together.

Respecting boundaries is huge. If there's anything sexual going on, both of you gotta be 100% on board.

Also, there are so many ways to be close that aren't about sex. Emotional connection, deep talks, cuddles, just doing fun stuff together – that's all part of being intimate too.

Sometimes, you might need to meet in the middle. Maybe it's about finding romantic but non-sexual ways to connect, or even thinking about an open relationship if that's something you both are okay with.

If things get tricky, there's no shame in talking to a relationship counselor. Basically, every relationship is its own unique thing. What matters is finding w

[abitcurious2022]

Well said. There are many ways to be close that aren't about sex.

[_Maya_]

Probably not. If you desire sex in a relationship and you are in one with someone who doesn't want that or doesn't find it appealing then that is not a good fit. Think of it sort of like being a guy that likes to eat meat and getting in a relationship with a vegan. Can it work? Yeah it could but is it going to be good when you cook at home and she doesn't like anything you make? How long will that last before you get tired of it? I don't think it is a good idea in my opinion. You want to find someone that has similar likes which does include sex.

[WindAtMyBack]

I think this is a case that you can talk hypothetically about what you "think" you could do all you want. But when you are next to that person, all the hypothetical thinking goes out the window when the juices start flowing.

You would have the desire when you are with them, but be in a constant state of depriving yourself. I think you would never feel satisfied and feel like you are in a one-sided relationship.

Sure, you could go masturbate. Or maybe they would have sex even though they have no desire to. But neither one would be the same as a normal healthy and natural relationship, where you bond in that special very intimate way.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

personally, no. why? Because one of you will always have to sacrifice their needs to satisfy the other.

Either she would be having sex with you out of obligation or you would need to give up on sex until she wants it.

Resentment will always be the result either way.

[Finchie40]

Why would you even want To try? Just be friends with her and go find a girl that likes to fuck , you will only be hurting yourself trying to accept someone that isn’t compatible with you

[Berethor]

She can lie back and think of England, but I would not be calling it healthy. :)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Lie_Back_and_Think_of_England

[JacobJordan]

If you ever want or plan to have sex more than likely not. Then again your asexual partner may not have a problem with you being intimate with other people. Then again why waste your time with an asexual person if you could be with someone who treats the exact same AND wants to be intimate

[RavenDarkheart]

Asexual? As in you don’t have sex? Sounds like you’re just close friends not in a relationship.

[sheikalana]

It is possible if sex is not a priority or a necessity to you.

[Anonymous]

as long as you're not sex crazed or a sex addict, yes.

[Nikki1989]

It is possible but highly unlikely. You will clash on many issues.

[DextroShade]

No, you cannot.

[MikeTheBartender]

Of course. It's called a FRIENDSHIP.

[Tharithi]

So u gonna die sexless if u are with her?

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yes. It'll feel like being married.

[Juxtapose]

Sounds like friendship with extra steps 🤷

[KrakenAttackin]

Why wound you even try?

[jahaims]

Not a healthy romantic relationship

[Abdulwahh]

Bro why would you get with an asexual?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.