I have never said this to anyone yet, that's why being anonymous but would you ever be in a relationship with an asexual person.
I have had sex before and have tried a lot different things in it to enjoy it but I never was able to enjoy it, don't know why but then I started thinking maybe love isn't for me.
But I still wanted to be with someone be happy be sad enjoy a partnership and life with them that's when I felt maybe it is the sex part which I don't enjoy. But sex is important for a lot of people in a relationship, so I am not sure I can find anyone who would be happy to be with someone like me.
- 29 d
I consider myself to be on the asexual spectrum. Like you, I have experimented with intimacy and felt absolutely nothing but then again I thought maybe I was just experimenting with the wrong people so maybe it’s possible I’m demisexual (only having sexual desires towards people who I have a deep emotional connection with). So I think if we talked about it I could make it work.
21 Reply- Asker29 d
I never thought about it that way, that maybe I am demisexual.
But it's good to know that you are open to trying
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- 30 d
Of course you can have a marriage without sex and fall in love. There is a whole asexual online community and there are social groups and I’m betting dating sites. I’ve heard of a couple who got married. 🥰
16 Reply- Asker29 d
I will definitely check it out.
Thanks - 29 d
You’re welcome and yes I think you definitely should. Obviously even if you don’t want sex, or need it, you experience all other romantic feelings. So it’d be a shame if you didn’t. 😊🥰
- 29 d
I’m personally not asexual, but I do know it’s a sexual orientation. I was fascinated by it and doing research on it just a few years ago. I’m not making it up.
- Asker29 d
That's good to know.
And if you want to know anything I would be happy to tell you. - 29 d
Okay. Thanks. Same here.
- 29 d
You’re welcome to send me a message. I’m on level 1, currently, so I can’t message other people first yet
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AskYour question touches on the magic of love beyond physical intimacy. I'm here to sprinkle some relationship wisdom and let you know that love isn't just about sex. Many people value emotional connection, companionship, and shared experiences, so an asexual relationship can definitely work for the right person. Communication is key to exploring what you both value in a relationship and addressing any red flags. Openly express your needs and desires to potential partners, and you'll find someone who cherishes you for the amazing partner you are. Keep that heart open! 💖🌟
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2.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Me personally wouldn’t be because I love sex , but I know they are out there , I actually met a few girls’ that are so they are out there , Yoir best bet is to find one of them
10 Reply- 27 d
Hmmm... most likely, I don't really see an issue with it.
My own sexuality is rather complicated. As of now I think I identify with a bunch of different sexualities. Pansexual being one of them. Demi-sexual or aegosexual or asexual also fit to a certain extent.
The thing is though there are different spectrums of asexuality, that much I know. Some are open to the idea of sex though not particularly excited by it most of the time, and others are 100% sex repulsed and hate everything about sex.
For me, I have to love the person, which fits into demi-sexual. I do feel sexual attraction and sexual impulses, though the act of sex itself isn't that appealing to me, which fits into aegosexual.
I may just have a lower libido than average though. Might have nothing to do with being asexual.
As things are currently for me though, I have a very lovely girlfriend and I have sex with her almost daily, and I do enjoy it very much! Her existence alone makes me very horny. Before her though I didn't care much about sex. That probably means I'm demi-sexual. Though the sex is mostly just gentle love making, not anything hardcore or BDSM or anything, which is how I like it with her! And it's mostly about the emotions and how much I love her than the physical pleasure itself.
My girlfriend is definitely not asexual, lol. She loves daily sex, and I enjoy making her happy. If she were asexual though I don't think I'd care at all.
TL;DR Most likely yes, no doubt about it! I myself have a rather low sex drive anyway.
10 Reply - Anonymous(30-35)29 d
I have a relatively low libido, but would I accept someone who doesn't want sex AT ALL? Here are my questions:
- How would it differ from friendship? Would an asexual man still be attracted to me and see me as sexy, particularly when I put the effort to be? If not, it would be hard on my self-esteem whether we have sex or not.
- I want children, so... would he be able to to make it happen? If he let me know he hates it, and I can see the disgust on his face that would again affect my sense of worth. I don't want to pressure anyone to have sex with me.
- How can we be intimate without it? So I guess back to my first point, are we actually a couple? Would it make a difference to him to be with me or, for example, with a guy friend? How would I know he actually sees me as a woman?
- Would he be ok with me having sex with other people occasionally? Or would he view it as cheating still, even though he himself doesn't want sex with me?
I think many women would have similar thoughts and even if they agree at first, or have a low libido then it will eventually lead to a break up... not necessarily because of lack of sex, but your lack of sexual attraction to them. So I'd advise you look for a woman who is asexual like yourself.
21 Reply- 29 d
In my opinion, there is a degree of love that, even without sex, is a bit unnatural for ordinary friends. Being in a partnership facilitates the expression of that love.
728 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Female enthusiasm is not important as male enthusiasm, a woman can just lie back and think of England, while a man is usually the one who do all the work, so yea I can be with an asexual woman as long as she agree to have sex, I would not be with asexual woman who don't agree to have sex, as I believe that it would be pretty pointless relationship.
12 Reply- Asker29 d
Ok I guess
- 26 d
Just FYI, this is incredibly shitty advice. If a woman isn't enthusiastically engaged in the sexual experience and if a you aren't in close communication with her about whether she's enjoying herself, then there's a fine line between passive acceptance on her part and just straight-up RAPE.
This may not be as much of a consideration for you if you genuinely aren't interested in sex; but, if you ever DO decide that you want to have sex, clear and open communication is key and her enjoyment is just as important as yours. So, in short, this guy is an idiot and you shouldn't listen to him. His twisted line of thinking broaches dangerously close to potential rapist territory and, whether you want to have sex or not, I think you'd want to be a better person than that.
- Anonymous(36-45)1 mo
I don't know if I’d label myself but I never put myself in a situation where sex would happen. With this I know it isolates me because of social norms and group activities and get togethers. But I also do not like being touched or cuddled. I don’t socialize and I am very much a “hermit”, if you will. But I do work an independent income. Conversations in person or in general are incredibly annoying and just over all boring. I understand that majority of people enjoy these things but I also understand that I don’t have to do them just because it’s “normal”. I am content with the side effects of my personality but it’s society that is uncomfortable with it. It just sucks that you’ll get to know someone and they completely pull away because you’re not on the same page in the sex department, so I guess I could say that I some what relate to your context.
23 Reply- Asker1 mo
Thank you for understanding, it is a somewhat tough situation for people like us
- Opinion Owner1 mo
I don't know if we are “us”. But there are similarities I’d say
- Asker29 d
That's fair
- 29 d
I would, I'm also asexual. I'm not uncomfortable with sex but I dont get the same kick out of it as my husband does. We worked out cuz he was cool with it & I was cool with it.
U gotta find someone who can work with u & u can work with them. If ur not comfortable with any sex then that's prolly gonna have to be another asexual person but, we are out there. Is not impossible & u can have romance without sex, or relationship without either one. Will take time tho to find good one just like any other, & the pool is smaller, but it will be okay. 💜
10 Reply - 29 d
Personally, i question such a label. I think it depends largely on the couple. Why?
I dated someone who was convinced she was asexual and actually sought out therapists. She ended up divorcing her husband and shortly after dating we began getting physical and she quite literally was very open sexually and was very enthusiastic.
Keep in mind, she didn't reveal this to me until a few years of dating. We eventually went our separate ways, but she still wanted a friends with benefits's arrangement and disclosed how she hated sex but with our relationship she discovered she actually loved sex and she decided the issue wasn't about being asexual but not having the right sexual partner.
I am sure there are people whose view of sex places it very low on their list of priorities, but everytime I see this type of post I can't help but wonder are they truly asexual or just haven't met that right sexual partner.
00 Reply I personally couldn’t. I view sex as important intimacy and don’t think any romantic relationship that lacks it is particularly healthy. Sex is the closest you could be with someone and I would want that with a partner
31 Reply- Asker1 mo
Thank you for your honesty
- m1 mo
Sure thing. I don't particularly enjoy sex myself as I have a lot of dysphoria about how I look so I don't want others to see me like that either. As long as I can get affection like cuddling and kissing then I'm fine.
21 Reply- Asker1 mo
Of course everyone has their own love language and cuddles and kisses sound nice
Do not worry, you are definitely not alone asexual human in this world , who ever you will start dating , tell them that you are asexual, don't hide it , don't waste yours and someone else time , someone needs what needs you , less sex , but happy with other daily things and not everyone wants kids 😇
Would I be in a relationship with asexual?
I would like to try as an experiment and if person don't care about sex but is happy to please my needs , then I see no problem , but there shouldn't be any pushing for it , I wouldn't want beg for sex , if I can get any time I want and persone is happy share body without enjoying, I see no problem here or would find this as a problem later 🤔00 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. That would annoy me.
I'm a healer. And consider that a pathology.
Of course, according to Western paradigms people are what they are. Which fine, may have some merit.
But there is always something underlying reason people are the way they are, and why they are ill.
Tbh, I'm a big lover. And sex is sort of over-rated. All relationships may just end up as platonic love. So love always does come first.
But yeah, find someone right for you and doesn't mind.
10 Reply1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Asexual people should be with other asexual people.
21 Reply- Asker1 mo
That's fair, I guess
- 28 d
DIt means you haven't had sex with the right person. I think you can understand real sex if you have sex with a woman you love, value and feel the warmth of.
22 Reply- Asker28 d
Hmm, I am not sure but maybe you are right.
Still have to find someone like that though - 27 d
If the chemistry isn't right you don't get any explosions 😉
- 29 d
yeah. a friendship, which is a relationship. i don't see the point in getting into a "sexual" relationship with a person who doesn't wish to participate in sex.
22 Reply- Asker29 d
Very true
- 29 d
by the way not trying to call you out but if sex doesn't feel great for you, try it after not touching yourself for a month. Enjoying sex has to be learned for most people. It's something you're not very good at naturally.
1.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I wouldn't. I adore female bodies and I love sex.
Sex is one of my main reasons for having relationships with women.
I prefer a woman with a strong libido and erogenous body who is sexually attracted to me. Anything else would be rather pointless.
That's not to say that sex is all that's important in a relationship.00 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. They wouldn't be asexual, then.
It's like someone saying they would have same sex, but they are not "gay".
Doesn't work like that kiddo.
But people like to bullshit meanings and feelings these days. So it doesn't really matter.
00 Reply- 30 d
Nope.. I need that part of the relationship because its the only time I feel loved..
11 Reply- Asker29 d
That's fair, thank you for your honest opinion
Personally, no. However, I am sure there are girls out there just the same as you.
13 Reply- Asker1 mo
Thank you for your honesty
- Asker1 mo
I hope I do someday, thank you
- Anonymous(36-45)27 d
Why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want me sexually? I get it, people like that don't like sex, but to choose to be with someone who does like sex, that builds resentment, and eventually will cause the relationship to fail. So no, I'd never be with someone who was asexual.
10 Reply The question should not be "would you be?" rather "should you be?" (excluding asexual people ofcourse).
As I think it's cruel on them if you know beforehand that they are asexual and you know it involes the risk of putting them in a position in the long run where they're uncomfortable and vice versa10 Reply6.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I have been friends with a couple, but anything beyond that is not going to happen.
11 Reply- Asker29 d
Fair.
Thank you for your honesty
- 28 d
I am asexual and no I wouldn’t because I wouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone anyway
10 Reply - 29 d
I would not be able to handle an asexual romantic relationship, no. That would absolutely kill me.
10 Reply - 28 d
Maybe relationships with Asexuals would be okay.
10 Reply - 29 d
I don’t judge on any merit other than character, personality, and where her priorities are so…. I’d date an asexual woman (not now because I’m happy to be with my soulmate)
00 Reply 2.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. That would pretty much be a close friendship rather than a sexual relationship. But I'm sure if you advertise you can find somebody.
10 Reply- 29 d
In practice these are just women who want all the benefits of being in a relationship without putting out. Any man who is asexual just goes MGTOW and doesn't bother with relationships with women.
11 Reply - 27 d
You have to find someone similar or it will be disastrous.
10 Reply - 29 d
Dont be jealous when I have to masturbate for my own libido, you know?
10 Reply 1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No, I am not going to give sexual commitment to someone who doesn't want sex with me. We can just be friends if its platonic.
00 Reply- Anonymous(36-45)1 mo
Asexual people don't have relationships, they have only friendships.
13 Reply- Asker1 mo
I sometimes get the same feeling.
But do hope for something more if I can find it. - Asker1 mo
*But I do hope
- Opinion Owner29 d
You can get more from people who are not asexual, because asexual people are not interested in something more.
6.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yes, that type of relationship is called friendship. I had one or 2 briefly.
00 Reply3.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Never, never, never. I'd rather whack it if that were the case.
00 ReplyJust find someone who is asexual aswell and you dont have to worry.
00 Reply- 27 d
Yes absolutely!!!
There is much more to love than sex. And also, most women in the U. S. are so unattractive (because fat) that I couldn't have sex with them anyway.
00 Reply No offense, no.
11 Reply- Asker28 d
None taken
- Anonymous(36-45)29 d
There are PLENTY of low sex drive girls. Just find one and you'll be fine. In fact, if you post on your dating profile that you're asexual you may find it works wonders for you.
03 Reply- Asker29 d
Thank you for the advice.
Hope it works for me - Opinion Owner29 d
Should be easy enough. The other advantage of not wanting sex is that attractiveness matters MUCH less to you.
- Opinion Owner25 d
I'd consider dating or even having a relationship with an asexual girl if she was cool with me having sex with other girls. Extra points for her if she helped source them.
- 30 d
Short of a very well-endowed hermaphrodite, I didn't know there was such a thing!
00 Reply - Anonymous(25-29)27 d
It's not out of the question, but I may be more inclined to be with a non-asexual person.
10 Reply - 29 d
No. They're mentally off and pretending they have some weird sexual orientation.
10 Reply - Anonymous(18-24)27 d
I am asexual myself but no I wouldn't be.
17 Reply- Asker27 d
So would you be in a relationship with someone who isn't asexual?
- Opinion Owner27 d
I'm married to a man who is very Hetrosexual
- Asker27 d
Then how do you both deal with the sex situation?
- Opinion Owner27 d
I just let him do his thing to me or I help him, then snuggles. Men are very easy pleased.
- Asker27 d
What about women then?
- Opinion Owner27 d
I dated a girl for a while. Really hard work.
- Asker27 d
Ok got it
- 26 d
I wouldn't as I would get cheated on, so why be in a relationship
00 Reply - 29 d
I would but i would still be a little clingy either way but yeah I would
00 Reply 7.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Why would anyone associate themselves with damaged goods?
00 Reply- Anonymous(25-29)30 d
Yes as an asexual myself
11 Reply- Asker29 d
That's good
- Anonymous(30-35)1 mo
Maybe you should get your hormones checked.
10 Reply - Anonymous(25-29)30 d
I have and that person became sexual after being with me
00 Reply 3.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Sure. I can get sex elsewhere
08 Reply- Asker1 mo
So you would be in a relationship with someone else and have sex somewhere else?
- Asker1 mo
Isn't that kind of cheating then, if you have sex with someone else?
- Asker1 mo
Ok so you would talk to him before hand.
Got it. 👍 - Asker1 mo
but suppose if it were me and I am not comfortable with an open relationship what would you say?
- Asker1 mo
Fair enough
890 opinions shared on Relationships topic. No, what would be the point of that?
10 Reply- 28 d
That would be a friend.
10 Reply That would be very difficult for me
10 Reply- 29 d
No, i need sec
10 Reply - 1 mo
There are support groups and online forums.
01 Reply- Asker1 mo
Ok, I guess
Nope.
12 Reply- Asker1 mo
I understand, thank you
- 26 d
Nooooooo.
10 Reply - 29 d
Nope
10 Reply 3.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Nope
10 Reply- 29 d
No..
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