Would you date an asexual person?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. For me it’s soul destroying.

I can survive without sex but for me I can’t be happy in a relationship where I don’t feel wanted sexually. Holding back is different then not wanted.

It’s about as big a dealbreaker as there is.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, I want sexual relations with my partner.

ElissaDido · Answer

I've been saving my virginity for almost 24 years but that doesn't mean I want to die a virgin so this is a big fat No for me.

Desconhecida · Answer

How and why would an assexual person want to date?

Dongtai · Answer

I have and can’t do it again. Here’s the thing. Not wanting sex in a relationship is OK. Wanting sex in a relationship is OK. What’s important in a relationship is not universal to all.

Is it wrong if a woman doesn’t get serious with a guy because she wants kids and he doesn’t?

Is it wrong if a man doesn’t want to commit to a woman who wants an open relationship?

NO. Not everyone is going to be compatible. That’s the whole point of dating. Finding out if you’re a good match for a long term relationship. It’s ok admit someone isn’t right for you and vice versa.

Accept who you are. Love yourself. Realize that not everyone will want to give up sex to be with someone. You shouldn’t be trying to convince anyone to give up part of themselves to be with you. You should be trying to find someone who can be their self with you, just like you’re wanting someone who wants to be with you despite being asexual.

I personally will not date someone who is asexual because sex is important to me. That doesn’t make me a bad person. It means I’m responsible enough to know what kind of partner is best for me.

If you’re asexual, you should be trying to find people who share your needs. You need someone who is also asexual. Do not change for anyone and don’t try to change anyone.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I realize that asexuality just means that they aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and that some asexual people still have sex and some don't, but I'm gonna operate on the assumption that in this case the asexual person doesn't want to have sex.
And under that assumption, yes I would still date them. Sex isn't that important to me. As long as we could still cuddle and kiss and all that, I would still be getting the intimacy I need from that relationship

SueShe · Answer

Absolutely no problem at all.

Actually, asexual people are intellectually way more interesting. Where can I find this rarity?

If anything sexual, then only sapiosexual and limit the sexual part to the intellect and nothing else.

Mickey9999 · Answer

Hells no! Dealt with my late husbands impotence from his diabetes for over 12 years. He could say all he wanted that it was me but when you have desires and needs and they go unfulfilled, you blame yourself. Without the sex everything else like hugs and hand holding and kissing stopped too. And when I asked for an open marriage he said no... I still feel he was more than selfish to this day!

Jack489109 · Answer

Dating an asexual person doesn’t sound very different than being married after seven years with children. In that cause you are likely not attracted to eachother anymore nor desire sex with eachother. Lots of masterbation and porn. So why not?

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

yes, assuming we would have sex occasionally. I want to have kids, as long as we have sex to make babies I am cool with it.
I find asexuals very interesting, and they have a way of channeling their energy into art, work, science, studies family, faith, etc

She would need to be very appealing in many ways, because not having sex often would be a huge sacrifice for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Years ago, I knew a lady who had zero interest in sex. She had sex in the past and saw no point in it at all. I didn't see her for a long time and then I ran into her and she was with a guy. She said that they had just got married. Funny he came across as being gay. I wonder about all that!

Phillip_Pinto · Answer

Depends... If she's asexual there is a chance that she would like to watch me with others... Still wouldn't be with her though... To not have the contact with your loved one is really hard. I would prefer not to. But I really love them I would try to make the effort

cth96190 · Answer

No, I would not date someone who was asexual, because it would be pointless.
Dating is part of the mate selection process, the ultimate goal of which is to choose someone as a life partner with whom to have children and a lot of sex.
Therefore, someone who was asexual would be eliminated immediately during that mate selection process.

Aethereal · Answer

I would date an asexual person. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. And I honestly would prefer someone who wasn't obsessed with it. Though I would hope she'll be open to hugs, kisses, cuddling, and other forms of skinship.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Tried to in college once. Then, her sister was an abusive jerk to me for no reason. And she would never defend me when her sister was needlessly rude. So I blocked both of them and dropped them like hot potatoes.

Anonymous · Answer

No, sexual intimacy and feeling wanted is important for me in a relationship. I don't like restrictions either so not being able to do things people normally do and enjoy being together to the fullest would feel bad for me. Plus I am not that much of an emotional person so without sex I would soon feel like I am not gaining much from it and the relationship is not worth it, might as well be just friends.

mellowman · Answer

I would not. I have had some female friends that seemed asexual to me and I enjoyed their company as friends. They hels no sexual attraction for me as someone who I might what to date would. Had not thought about that but it was clear at the time.

lacaras · Answer

No, if I liked them I would be friends with them, but there isn't any point of dating or being mutually exclusive if sex or the possibility of sex in the future isn't a factor. I know some asexual people still have sex because their partner wants it, but I don't want to have sex with someone who really doesn't want to have sex with me, I'd rather just masturbate at that point

Mir95 · Answer

Yeah of course. Sex isn't that important to me. So I'd be okay dating an asexual person.

stevejobless · Answer

I mean I'd hang out alone with an asexual person, and you could call that dating. I couldn't have sex with an asexual person because she wouldn't get any pleasure from it. So there'd be no point in having an exclusive relationship.
I could have an open relationship with an asexual person.

hahahmm · Answer

No. They should date each other. It’s like asking if a gay person should date a straight person. Or should someone with 2 of the 3 worst STDs date someone clean. Or... you get the idea

LesterJester · Answer

Why would an Asexual person even want to go on a date in the first place? Sorry to answer your question with another question, but this does not make sense to me.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Probably not. If im looking forward to a future relationship with this person, I plan on having sex eventually! Lol I'm not going to be with a Nun... sex is not the most important, but it is very important

John_Doesnt · Answer

I wouldn't date a weirdo. Most asexuals are faking it too and they're liars.

PinkMichae · Answer

No offense to asexual people but for me sex is way to important in a relationship. It also causes major issues when one person wants sex and the other could care less.

JustAskingYall · Answer

To be honest you should respect each other choices but I feel like if you're really in love being asexual isn't really possible.. İ mean everything has it's reason but if you're really in love and comfortable with each other you'll definitely make love... I'm not only talking about sex (Making love is not only having sex).

Anonymous · Answer

It would be too difficult. If I wanted that with the man I love but he had no drive to do that it would feel a lonely for me.

spesh · Answer

no because id feel im not sexy enough thats why she doesn't wanna do it with me, it would constently make me sad and ruin my self esteem, i want sexual approval

J_Claire · Answer

It’s my personal opinion that romance can exist without sex, so yes I would

Imcmullan · Answer

Asexual people should date other asexual people... never could i ever... i practically need a nympho now..

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I would think an asexual person would want to date themselves!

serious · Answer

Well, no I am never going to date anyone in my life. I have always been single and I wish to remains single for life.

VIVANT · Answer

If they still wanted genuine emotional and physical romantic intimacy - just not sex, I’d TRY it. But if they had no romantic desire at all... that’d be far too sterilized for me.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

no such thing as an asexual person ! Male and female created he them ! You either have a penis or a vagina and can not be having sex with out the opposite sex with you ! Thanks

citrusflavour01 · Answer

As an asexual myself, I would. I don't desire sex in relationships, but love. Romance is not the same and we all should know that?

Juxtapose · Answer

That is just a friendship at that point. The very concept of romance would not exist without sex.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Only if she was a hologram:

Cyantyki · Answer

I would definitely date, and if i can feel love in the air, i would go all in and commit to a relationship😌

Liskitty · Answer

Yes, if we really connect on an emotional level. I'm sure there would be some way to make the sexual aspect work at least for me.

kestrelkil · Answer

Honestly no, couples sex drives need to be some what on the same level, so as someone who wants sex with their partner on a regular basis it would be difficult to be with someone who is doesn't want that.

Browser101 · Answer

Yes but I would need to be castrated to make it work long term

Hurdleez-Swampede · Answer

Probably not because it wouldn't lead to what I eventually want accomplished and having a family. So it will be a waste of time.

Justacatlady · Answer

While I have no issue with them, no. I’m a very sexual person so that wouldn’t work

sonnysunshine · Answer

I don’t believe anybody is truly asexual unless they have severe hormone Deficiencies or brain damage. Some people are just extremely picky when it comes to what turns them on.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Sex is the only reason for dating in the first place. Why would you go through the hassle of putting up with a woman's bullshit if you're not getting pussy?

Lynzerilee · Answer

No cause we won't be compatible and that leads to quite a miserable relationship

Tomsta · Answer

I dont see why not. Emotional intimacy is better than physical anyway

Singapura · Answer

no way, what's the point? They are just friends, not lovers if they are asexual.

WintersDaughter · Answer

I would, because I am asexual lol the only time I'm ever gonna have sex is when i want a kid

genericname85 · Answer

no, cause for me sex is the ultimate goal of dating. if they are asexual, it makes the date pointless to me.

Sensmind · Answer

This to me would be a very deep friendship not dating,

Minahh · Answer

I'm not an asexual myself but I would date someone who is. For me it's not important what sexuality that person has but more if I'm comfortable around him.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Still a virgin myself, so I could potentially possibly see it happening. I don't know if I'd like it, but I'd be willing to give it a try and see how it works out.

Mamamialetmego · Answer

Never i have high sex drive i want to bang couple times daily

Emmalouise03 · Answer

hell no, I would never do that, EVER. ;-; I'm a very horny person and I need a horny boyfriend.

Agape93 · Answer

Long as they were fine with me getting it elsewhere

AcidT0y · Answer

I dated a girl who claimed to be asexual for a couple months but she kept initiating sex so I'm pretty sure she wasn't

GreenCatalan · Answer

yes, but sadly most people won't date an asexual person.
I understand that sex is an important part of a relation for the vast majority but there is more than that...
Also, it's impossible to identify an asexual person unless he/she tells you

CHICAHMALA · Answer

I’m a horny little thing ahahah It wouldn’t work out.

AngelLily · Answer

It depends what type of asexual are they becouse there are actually different type of a asexuals?

BrookieCookie0422 · Answer

No I find sex to be a very important part of my relationships so I couldn’t do it

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a very sexual person so probably not, unless I found them perfect overall. Asexual people deserve just as much love as everyone else.

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