Would you date an asexual person?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

No. For me it’s soul destroying.

I can survive without sex but for me I can’t be happy in a relationship where I don’t feel wanted sexually. Holding back is different then not wanted.

It’s about as big a dealbreaker as there is.

[spesh]

this is exacty the same thing i was trying to convey but didn't know how to put it into words,
look at my comment, i got a dislike for it, wtf, why?
does it not seem to convey my point the way i was meant to?
did i say something offensive?

[Opinion Owner]

@spesh it’s possible someone took offence at your age.

But also most people have gotten downvotes for saying no.

Part of that is for many people if their partners love is contingent on sex it doesn’t seem, to them, real.

[spesh]

im actually 21 lol, jus i put in a random number when i signed up to this site,
also if i was with a girl i wouldn't base love on jus sex, i separate love and sex as two things, sex is jus a side thing of a relationship, and i think if a girl loved me, she would let me fuck her, if not then she doesn't like me,
so I don't know why the fuck whoever disliked my comment disliked it lol

[Anonymous]

No, I want sexual relations with my partner.

[ElissaDido]

I've been saving my virginity for almost 24 years but that doesn't mean I want to die a virgin so this is a big fat No for me.

[Light_beam]

Why are you saving it in the first place?

[mak16]

I can understand, coz you are Indian I guess!!!

[ElissaDido]

@mak16 I'm north African

[rkaye]

Light_beam calm down you insecute indivudal

[Light_beam]

@rkaye insecute? yea yea :D shut up dude.. no one talked to u

[mak16]

@ElissaDido ohhkay... well you look pretty good.. 👍

[rkaye]

Apologies insecure" yeah no one did and judging by your previous response no one spoke to you 😂😂

[Light_beam]

You taggged me smartie

[rkaye]

I meant to your reply before I messaged you

[Desconhecida]

How and why would an assexual person want to date?

[Lucy_Iskuss]

Asexual people still can feel romantic attraction. So maybe they want to cuddle and kiss instead of sexual things. There’s also people who are aromantic though and some are both.

[Desconhecida]

Wow...

[Desconhecida]

Thanks for explaining.💋

[Dongtai]

I have and can’t do it again. Here’s the thing. Not wanting sex in a relationship is OK. Wanting sex in a relationship is OK. What’s important in a relationship is not universal to all.

Is it wrong if a woman doesn’t get serious with a guy because she wants kids and he doesn’t?

Is it wrong if a man doesn’t want to commit to a woman who wants an open relationship?

NO. Not everyone is going to be compatible. That’s the whole point of dating. Finding out if you’re a good match for a long term relationship. It’s ok admit someone isn’t right for you and vice versa.

Accept who you are. Love yourself. Realize that not everyone will want to give up sex to be with someone. You shouldn’t be trying to convince anyone to give up part of themselves to be with you. You should be trying to find someone who can be their self with you, just like you’re wanting someone who wants to be with you despite being asexual.

I personally will not date someone who is asexual because sex is important to me. That doesn’t make me a bad person. It means I’m responsible enough to know what kind of partner is best for me.

If you’re asexual, you should be trying to find people who share your needs. You need someone who is also asexual. Do not change for anyone and don’t try to change anyone.

[VIVANT]

There are actually sites dedicated to this ~~it’s totally doable. 🤦‍♀️

I joined one out of curiosity A year ago or so ago... . It was cool people..

Provided they were not pretending in order to get sex. 😂😂

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I realize that asexuality just means that they aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and that some asexual people still have sex and some don't, but I'm gonna operate on the assumption that in this case the asexual person doesn't want to have sex.
And under that assumption, yes I would still date them. Sex isn't that important to me. As long as we could still cuddle and kiss and all that, I would still be getting the intimacy I need from that relationship

[SueShe]

Absolutely no problem at all.

Actually, asexual people are intellectually way more interesting. Where can I find this rarity?

If anything sexual, then only sapiosexual and limit the sexual part to the intellect and nothing else.

[Mickey9999]

Hells no! Dealt with my late husbands impotence from his diabetes for over 12 years. He could say all he wanted that it was me but when you have desires and needs and they go unfulfilled, you blame yourself. Without the sex everything else like hugs and hand holding and kissing stopped too. And when I asked for an open marriage he said no... I still feel he was more than selfish to this day!

[Jack489109]

Dating an asexual person doesn’t sound very different than being married after seven years with children. In that cause you are likely not attracted to eachother anymore nor desire sex with eachother. Lots of masterbation and porn. So why not?

[Juxtapose]

Even if I didn't have a sex drive, I would still give my woman head just to please her.

Women who don't take care of their husbands are bad partners, and vice versa.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

yes, assuming we would have sex occasionally. I want to have kids, as long as we have sex to make babies I am cool with it.
I find asexuals very interesting, and they have a way of channeling their energy into art, work, science, studies family, faith, etc

She would need to be very appealing in many ways, because not having sex often would be a huge sacrifice for me.

[Anonymous]

Years ago, I knew a lady who had zero interest in sex. She had sex in the past and saw no point in it at all. I didn't see her for a long time and then I ran into her and she was with a guy. She said that they had just got married. Funny he came across as being gay. I wonder about all that!

[Phillip_Pinto]

Depends... If she's asexual there is a chance that she would like to watch me with others... Still wouldn't be with her though... To not have the contact with your loved one is really hard. I would prefer not to. But I really love them I would try to make the effort

[cth96190]

No, I would not date someone who was asexual, because it would be pointless.
Dating is part of the mate selection process, the ultimate goal of which is to choose someone as a life partner with whom to have children and a lot of sex.
Therefore, someone who was asexual would be eliminated immediately during that mate selection process.

[Aethereal]

I would date an asexual person. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. And I honestly would prefer someone who wasn't obsessed with it. Though I would hope she'll be open to hugs, kisses, cuddling, and other forms of skinship.

[Dongtai]

Have you ever been in a serious relationship with someone who’s asexual? Unless you’re a true asexual, it’s easier said than done.

[Aethereal]

@Dongtai I'm what some people call "demisexual". I've not dated an asexual person before but the realities of my life make me quite certain that it would not be a problem if I did, as long as I can get the other forms of intimacy.

[Dongtai]

Being demisexual means you don’t experience sexual attraction until after strong emotional connection with someone. Unless your definition is different from google’s you would still be physically drawn to a person after getting very close to them. They still will wouldn’t be sexually drawn to you and I believe that could cause problems.

I’m heterosexual so I’m only an expert on that. If I’m wrong somewhere educate me. I love learning

[Aethereal]

@Dongtai I pretty much fit the google definition of Demisexual. Unfortunately, for me to answer you further would require me to get a bit more personal than I would like on an open forum. Apologies.

[Dongtai]

I understand 🙏

[ObscuredBeyond]

Tried to in college once. Then, her sister was an abusive jerk to me for no reason. And she would never defend me when her sister was needlessly rude. So I blocked both of them and dropped them like hot potatoes.

[Anonymous]

No, sexual intimacy and feeling wanted is important for me in a relationship. I don't like restrictions either so not being able to do things people normally do and enjoy being together to the fullest would feel bad for me. Plus I am not that much of an emotional person so without sex I would soon feel like I am not gaining much from it and the relationship is not worth it, might as well be just friends.

[mellowman]

I would not. I have had some female friends that seemed asexual to me and I enjoyed their company as friends. They hels no sexual attraction for me as someone who I might what to date would. Had not thought about that but it was clear at the time.

[lacaras]

No, if I liked them I would be friends with them, but there isn't any point of dating or being mutually exclusive if sex or the possibility of sex in the future isn't a factor. I know some asexual people still have sex because their partner wants it, but I don't want to have sex with someone who really doesn't want to have sex with me, I'd rather just masturbate at that point

[Mir95]

Yeah of course. Sex isn't that important to me. So I'd be okay dating an asexual person.

[stevejobless]

I mean I'd hang out alone with an asexual person, and you could call that dating. I couldn't have sex with an asexual person because she wouldn't get any pleasure from it. So there'd be no point in having an exclusive relationship.
I could have an open relationship with an asexual person.

[hahahmm]

No. They should date each other. It’s like asking if a gay person should date a straight person. Or should someone with 2 of the 3 worst STDs date someone clean. Or... you get the idea

[LesterJester]

Why would an Asexual person even want to go on a date in the first place?

Sorry to answer your question with another question, but this does not make sense to me.

[_Jay_]

Because they can have romantic feelings? I don't know.

[LesterJester]

@_Jay_ I just figured an Asexual person would prefer friendships and hanging out over dating, considering asexual people don't find either gender sexually attractive and dating is a step toward sexual relations.

Romantic feelings are a part of sexuality and if you have romantic feelings towards someone, then then you're attracted to them... If you're attracted to them, then you're not really asexual and therefore, you might be using the wrong term.

Either that, or they are asexual and are just screwing with their date, leading into thinking more would come from a date.

So again, why would an Asexual person want to date?

The definition of Asexuality is obviously still up in the air depending on which scientists you listen to, where some call it an orientation or others call it a behaviour (choice).

If they can't figure it out yet, and different people will personally label themselves as asexual for whatever reason they can justify, why would I waste my time with someone like that, when there are no rewards, relationship-wise, to putting yourself through that crap?

If an Asexual person wants to hang out or go somewhere, sure, I'll hang out. If they ask me out on a date, then no... And I would seriously question their claims of their sexuality, and their intentions.