Would you ever date an asexual?

[badatnamingthings]

yes

maybe

no

if they'd still have sex

[Berethor]

Well I am a man, so an sexless relationship seems mostly pointless to me, but I appreciate that you put the option of if they'd still have sex, usually people forget to put that option in questions about asexuals, if she would have sex despite the fact that she is an asexual then I might agree to date her, otherwise her asexuality would be an dealbreaker. Her lack of enthusiasm can still be problematic, but offering an guy shitty sex is still better than offering him no sex.

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[PoliceLivesMatter]

Probably not. I would like children one day. Also, sex is one of the characteristic things humans do to show love and affection. Why wouldn't you want to have sex if you're attracted to and love your man or woman?

[feonixrizen]

adoption is still an option

[PoliceLivesMatter]

It’s not the same

[Catss]

Well, I personally wouldn't want to have sex in a relationship. I know it's weird but I just don't want to do that to my body. Not yet.

I would want to cuddle a lot, since that makes me feel safe and loved.

If the other person really wants to have sex I guess I could give it a shot and if I still don't like it I would accept him/her having sex with other people. As long as I know about it.

[badatnamingthings]

do you understand the question?

[Catss]

Yes, but I turned it around

[Anonymous]

I would.

Its funny how people say that love is so important and such a strong feeling but if there is no sex in a relationship they leave? How meaningful love is, haha.
Seems like sex is far more important than love...

[witherwing]

Depending on the amount of intimacy they were comfortable with, maybe. If kissing or cuddling was out of bounds, then no. I'm fine with not having sex, but I want closeness and intimacy still.

[Z-Spark]

wtf...

[TerrierSaurus_rex]

You know that for guys "asexual" usually means that they don't get hard looking at girls, right?

Like for a lot of girls intimacy with a guy is a sexual thing, but like in this case he doesn't feel sexual attraction AT ALL. And with guys sexual attraction and getting turned on tend to happen together, so you lose one you lose the other. You're basically signing up for a relationship with a gay man.

[witherwing]

A gay man? How is asexual being gay? Most gay men still want to have sex, but with men instead of women. Asexuality means they don't feel sexual attraction, but can still have romantic feelings and want to have a romantic relationship. Intimacy is not a sexual thing. You don't seem to know what asexual means... 🙄

[Z-Spark]

lady dont take this as an offensive comment cause its not iam just gonna share my opinion, a sexless relationship is no relationship at all sex is one of the reasons i like girls and dating girls if there is no sex i have no reason to approach women or take them out its as simple as that.

an asexual man doesn't get hard or have sexual urges looking at you , you're basically in a relationship with a friend who won't have sex for you and you will settle for a sexless life, if you are asexual yourself then cool thats understandable, however if you're a normal hetrosexual woman with needs and urges settling for such a life because he provides "romance" is just destroying your own life and living a lie and a fantasy.

[witherwing]

I am in a relationship because of the commitment, love and security, not because of sex. I have a low sex drive, I can do without. I don't need to feel sexually desirable or that he gets hard looking at me. But for most guys sex is on the top of the list. For me it's no where near the top.

[Z-Spark]

a sexless relationship is not a relationship at all if you ever get into anything like that then you're not dating you're just hanging out with a friend, romance means nothing if i can't have sex with the girl.

[witherwing]

That is your opinion and you are entitled to it, but does not make my opinion any less true for me.

[FakeName123]

Absolutely not. Passion is part of romance and intimacy. Asexuals lack that.

Additionally I don't see asexuality as an sexuality, but as an absense of sexual drive - and I don't think that's something "you are born with", but in most cases a psychological issue.

[shessoheavy]

I am asexual, but I am also aromantic. I have never had a relationship, so I don't know if that is something I would like

[Neyila]

the question is, would they date me if they are asexual?

[badatnamingthings]

yes, they would

[badatnamingthings]

Only if you're an actual decent human being though, obviously

[feonixrizen]

asexual is different from aromantic

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would. I never had sex, so I could be in a relationship with someone who is not interested in it.

[SalemAdams]

I have needs. I don't believe people can be asexual. Celibate, yes. Asexual? No. Humans cannot reproduce on their own.

[badatnamingthings]

are you just trying to piss people off or do really think that's the logical answer?

[He-man]

How would that even work? Y'all would literally just be friends or best friends. Only difference is you say we're dating though, we don't kiss cuddle, have sex etc. But we do go out to eat.

[HonestGirlAlways]

I don't think I could. I need them to want to have sex with me lol.

[hungry_charizard]

No. I believe the sexual part of a relationship should be as strong as the emotional part. One cannot function without the other.
I'm not against it, just saying I wouldn't go well with an asexual girl.

[Anonymous]

I am and it doesn't stop me from showing my love for that person.

[madhatters4]

only if they were still willing and able to have sexual intimacy on a regular basis

[Anonymous]

I'm a sexual person and want to be with someone who I know enjoys having sex with me

[scherschun]

I feel you

[Opinion Owner]

@scherschun my partner enjoying having sex is a huge part of the pleasure for me. I'm not aphobic though a relationship with an ace person just wouldn't be for me

[scherschun]

I understand I have a disorder that makes me last for hours and so I can't cum so I just have pleasure pleasuring the girl

[Opinion Owner]

@scherschun Aw that sucks that you struggle to cum :( . But it's good that you get pleasure from sex still :)

[scherschun]

lol ya I don't know when a girl moans and gets really into it feels so good to me

[Opinion Owner]

@scherschun I feel you, I love knowing I'm giving my boyfriend pleasure

[redeyemindtricks]

@scherschun Hours of nonstop penetration would just get sore. Not in the good way. And, if we're being honest here, that would get unimaginably boring.

Maybe, like, 25% of being a good lover has anything to do with yr cock. If you mean "going for hours" literally, it's more like 5-10%.

[Opinion Owner]

@redeyemindtricks I don't think that's what he meant; just that, if he were to try and cum that way it would take hours. So instead he pleasures his partner and enjoys sex that way.

[redeyemindtricks]

That's a good benefit-of-the-doubt way to think about it.

[Opinion Owner]

@redeyemindtricks are you trolling us?

[redeyemindtricks]

Nh huh?
In my experience, when a boy talks about "lasting for [X period of time]", he's virtually guaranteed to be thinking about... just doing the ol' in-out for pretty much the entire time.

This has been consistent enough, with boys I've met my whole life, that it didn't even **occur** to me to interpret that sentence the way you did.

[Opinion Owner]

@redeyemindtricks nice Clockwork Orange reference :')

But nah, you can interpret contextually from what scherschun said; he's not proud of 'lasting hours', it's a disorder he didn't choose which makes sex difficult for him :( . He's talking about getting pleasure from making his partner feel good ie. not hurting or boring her

[redeyemindtricks]

ok ahhah this is just my fuck-up. I somehow managed to read scherschun's original post as something like, "I WISH I had [this problem that would just let me pound away without end] so I could just go at her for hours and hours".

Mah bad y'all... I'm gna just get on over and stand in the corner for a timeout 😂😂

scherschun, you **can** train yrself to, uhhm, move product more quickly by developing a certain rhythmic control over yr pelvic floor muscles.
The same process, if you rlly get into it, can also let you have full orgasms without ANY physical stimulation in the pubic area, and can also enable you to have multiple (ejaculatory) orgasms with no intervening refractory period.

[RealDarkeyes]

Yes, we'd never have sex but thats ok, and i would date them forever (or maybe i would you never know who you're going to marry)

[zagor]

What would the point be? Might as well hang out with a dude, and not have sex with HIM.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely no point, is there. It will not go anywhere.

[notallthere98]

Yeah that would be perfect

[NespaDon]

Yeah, I'm asexual as well though so I don't know why I'd be dating

[badatnamingthings]

why wouldn't you be?

[NespaDon]

Because a relationship for me would pretty much just be friendship lol

[badatnamingthings]

I disagree

[badatnamingthings]

unless you're aromantic

[TheUglyMonk]

I'm asexual and I can relate to what he is saying.

[Anonymous]

Why the fuck would you date someone who refuses to give it to you? And what kind of asexual would date in the first place? I'm shocked this is even a question.

[badatnamingthings]

the kind of asexual that dates someone is the kind of human being who still feels romantic attraction. Sexual attraction isn't the only kind of attraction out there and isn't all that matters in a relationship

[Opinion Owner]

It is most certainly one of the main fundamental components of a healthy relationship. A sexless relationship is just a close friendship in the end. And a close friendship is not enough for a sexual person for long-lasting fulfillment nor is it healthy.

[shessoheavy]

Fair enough, but do recognize that to asexuals and others relationships can exist without sex. To each their own you know

[Anonymous]

No. been there and it's a nightmare. Worse than being single. By a lot.

[badatnamingthings]

why is it so bad? maybe it was just the person you were with rather than the fact they were asexual

[Opinion Owner]

It made me feel unwanted, hideous, unloved, on top of frustrated, and tore me up.

It sucks.

[PeachyAF]

Damn that's horrible

[Ceins]

I believe you. I don't think there is a point to have serious relationship with asexual person if you aren't. Sooner or later this will become an issue.

[DinaM]

Probably, if I enjoyed their company.

[RachelleDraws]

I'd rather date a lesbian.