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I keep thinking about this.

My ex spent a lot of time and energy getting me to like her which I resisted at first. But then I fell for her and I showed her love in the ways I did like planning out thought out dates for her, getting her things which I thought she’d like whenever I saw anything on trips away and planning special things for her birthday. After a while, she occasionally dropped hints that she wanted me to show love by telling her I like her and that I think about her and she wants more of my attention and she sighed when I did things I don’t like (like go on my phone sometimes when I was with her) but she never said anything about thinking about ending the relationship or that it was affecting her a lot. Then she went away for a couple of weeks then she went silent then when I messaged, she was saying things like we’ll find a time to get together. Then she said she wanted a chat. I asked if everything’s ok and she said yeah, just wants to catch up. Then she seemed normal and had a chat with me about unrelated things then after some time out of nowhere towards the end of our catchup she said she’s starting to feel we’ve become more like friends recently and that she’d been thinking that for about a month. She said she’d discussed it with friends who said if she feels that way after a year it might be time to leave then she said she doesn’t see a future together but genuinely wants to stay friends. I had an inkling this was the case when she stopped messaging during and after her trip. 6 weeks on she keeps messaging me even if my responses are brief.

but I still feel confused, betrayed, angry and sad. And I don’t know how I should feel.

I know this kind of topic comes up a lot, but my situation has a twist.

About two years ago I matched with a girl on Tinder. We moved over to Messenger (because we both felt we vibed) pretty quickly and had long, positive conversations with a really good flow. After 4–5 days I suggested a phone call, and we exchanged numbers, though we never actually ended up calling.

Shortly after that she said she felt unsure about what she was doing, and the conversation slowly fell apart. Eventually she told me she didn’t want to continue talking, so I respected that and we went our separate ways.

Fast-forward to last weekend: she matched me again. She responded to my opening message with a friendly, genuine reply. She also said she remembered our previous conversations and that she found them fun. She asked questions back and kept the tone light.

I replied 1–2 hours later the same day.

Since then, it’s been around 40 hours with no response, and Tinder shows she hasn’t read my message yet.

If this were a completely fresh match, I’d assume a ghost and move on.
But this is someone where we already had compatibility and great rapport before.

So I’m curious; why do you think she chose to rematch with me after two years?
Even though she hasn’t replied yet, should I still assume it’s a ghosting situation, or is it different in a case like this?

Also, should I (see polls):