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Going to be 30 soon & ask myself why I’m incapable of being in a relationship with a man, people can say that I’m picky but I don’t fully believe I should take all the blame. Female friends I’ve had in the past seem to get dates easier/are okay with putting out & some have unintentionally made me second guess my looks, as they seem to have it easier yet other people have told me I’m equally/more attractive than they are. The last time I “dated” someone was when I was in my early twenties & I’m glad that ended because this guy felt like settling. It justifies that love isn’t blind & it’s better to be alone vs being in a mediocre relationship. I know I’m not all that but I feel like I should be able to attract quality men, all my life I feel like I’ve been invisible to men. I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (don’t count dating apps) & the very few times someone told me that a guy found me attractive (normally a guy I also thought was attractive), they never told me directly & it was always word of mouth.

I feel like I am cursed, that last person I saw in my early twenties was through a dating app & that’s how I’ve met all of these men I’ve met up with. The apps are continually getting worse & they’ve always had a bad rep, getting matches are never an issue it just fails to go anywhere for a number of reasons. And sometimes when I’ve met guys in person & it didn’t work out, there’s just something about them that doesn’t live up to my expectations (even though they look like their pics). I’m unsure if my dating logic is unrealistic, dating apps are the only way for me to meet people & don’t understand how I can be this old & haven’t been in love yet.

The last thing I’ll add is my lack of sex drive, masturbation doesn’t do anything for me & I haven’t had sex since I saw that person back in my early twenties. However, it’s known that some women need to be in a healthy relationship in order to have that *sexual desire*.

a couple months ago i got super super drunk at like 6pm and ended up in public all wasted. the cops were called on me and they picked me up. i spent the night in the sobering cell thing, and got a contravention of just 35 euros. It was in a little village in the country side. i dont drink often, like only a couple times a year. I didn't plan on getting drunk like that, or even going outside like that either.

half of my family thinks since i'm young (23) it's bad but it's not a huge deal, like it's something that can still happen at my age. and that as long as i learn my lesson and are careful to not drink so much like that especially alone, it's fine. The other half thinks it's really bad and i can't be left alone because of it. so now i'm being treated like a baby by those people for that one incident.

what do you guys think. is it super severe and warrents a 23yo being more controlled and babysat to prevent them redoing that or is it not that grave and they're old enough to learn from their mistakes alone?