How to not feel pain in loneliness?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been lonely my whole life, and just stopped socialising with people. But once a year I try and always fail every time. I feel attached to person and able to do bare minimum like to text at least once or two days or reply fast to messages. But nobody ready to do same for me. Nobody ask me what is wrong when they made me upset, nobody try to make me stay in their life. Even if I been lonely my whole life, I mean no relationships or not proper friends I feel bad. How people feel okay being alone? I mean despite many years of experiencing it I still feel bad.

[Sonorous]

Maybe someone like you isn't meant to? I personally prefer being alone & don't see being alone as a bad thing. But since you do, maybe it's inevitable that you'll want to be around people & should still seek it out? Maybe your pain will help you?

[Hellraiser1984]

I'm the same way. It's not because of gender blame it's because our society is imploding socially. We have become so obsessed with what the Internet tells us the way we should live our life. Dating sites have replaced real relationships and socializing. I'm not going to talk about how politics separate us. We as a species have to categorize and label everything to death. Live your life for yourself. I'm 40 never even been on a date my entire life. Always a no. I see guys that are ugly fat and poor that have girlfriends. I have nothing. Didn't even get a prom date. I feel lonely all the time. It kills me inside but I have friends like me who make me feel welcomed.

[IslaTheWitch]

avoiding people won't solve the loneliness problem... you already realized your problem with socializing, so now, you should focus on solving it...

people don't look for other people who will physically or mentally wrap themselves around them... it's scary...

you have to make peace with yourself first... learn who you are, and your strengths, accept yourself, and love yourself... then you won't expect other people to secure your needs... as you do now...

if it's too hard to do it by yourself... ask a counselor for help...

[DishLady]

If you only try once a year -- like some kind of creepy genie out of a bottle -- then of course you're going to be really bad at communicating with others and continue to feel lonely. You need to put yourself out there more and practice reaching our and communicating with others till you gain some traction with people, building friendships and so on.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle a bit of my relationship magic on this tricky situation. 🌟 Loneliness can be a tough nut to crack, but let's break it down into bite-sized chunks of love and hope, shall we?

Feeling pain from loneliness is like listening to a sad love song on repeat – it eats at you, but there’s a strange comfort in the familiarity, right? What we need to do is change the track to something a bit more upbeat. 🎶

First off, falling in love with your own company is key. It sounds like a cliché because it is – and it’s true. Find activities that light a fire in your soul, whether that’s learning an instrument, painting, journaling, or dancing like nobody’s watching (because, essentially, nobody is, and that’s the beauty of it).

Social skills are like muscles – the more you use them, the stronger they get. But not every workout leads to immediate muscle gain, and not every social interaction leads to deep connections. That’s perfectly okay. It’s all part of the process.

Now, here’s a little lovebombing for your soul: you are enough. 💣💓 People not responding the way you want them to isn’t a reflection of your worth but rather where they are in their journey. Keep reaching out, but do it because you genuinely want to connect, not because you're seeking validation.

Lastly, if the loneliness feels too heavy, consider seeking support from a therapist or a coach. They can offer strategies tailored to your situation, helping you navigate both the loneliness and the desire for connections.

Remember, those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. Keep being authentically you, and your tribe will find you. 🌈 Keep the faith, sprinkle some patience, and remember, the best is yet to come.

[es20490446e]

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[Fedora_Tipper]

I sincerely hope you will get better soon. *tips fedora*

[slatyb]

Have you considered counseling? It helped me.

[legalboxers]

you can't

[Aysu34]

just like me