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Lets say a male is dating another male... but that person is converting to a different gender... whom knows which one.

That can be really messed up if the first male didn't know the other other wanted to change in the first place, causing sexual frustrations. They may be confused themselves on their gender identity... maybe they should switch too, causing the other to lose interest?

Add to it, the person they are dating could be putting an emotional burden on them about how people don't like trans people and they call trans people mentally ill. Hurting the feelings of the partner might invoke the first person to fits of hatred and rage... pride... enough to do harm to others.

It all seems nuts, but in this mindset, it seems they may act out... and feel good about what they did.. because they are confused and kind nutty in the first place. Maybe they kill someone to defend the honor of their gender changing mate? It be justified to some to silence the voice harming the one they care for, might even feel good about it, but later, confused. People have been known to kill on command from others. doesn't' take much.

Lastly, do you think such people caught up in such gender, sexual, and relational confusions might possibly... have mental illnesses lurking? Like... some deeper issues that distort reality?

It's girls ask guys... so seems a valid psychological question.

It strikes me... without a reference point for what is sane, it's difficult to have that... sanity...

It's all conjecture...

Is it possible for two people to go for a coffee or a meal together, and be regarded by society as just good friends?

Does it matter?

For example would they be accused of cheating if they were already in a relationship?

Therefore if so, two single people not in a relationship can't be innocently just going for a coffee.

What is your opinion?

I was at a railway station at the weekend, and I was sat down on the platform waiting for the train.

Facing me was a guy with two children one approx 4 year old and the other about eight years old.

The 4 year old was throwing sweet wrappers on the floor, and the guy was unpreturbed diligently picking them up, and looking after the other child's sweet rubbish too.

The guy then started cleaning their shoes, when they're old enough to be able to clean their own shoes.

The children were obviously being spoilt rotten, perhaps if their Mum had been there it would have been a different story.

I don't have any children, and perhaps this is relatively a minor behaviour problem. I would prefer not to discipline my children, but if this is the result of being too lenient with them, the situation would have to change very quickly.

What is your opinion?