Why do girls object so much when guys want to play video games ¯\_(ツ)_/¯?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, I'm not a gamer, but my past friends with benefits was a professional gamer. He actually got sponsored by a company while I was with him and even went to France for a tournament. When he played video games, he involved me and if he needed to practice, he gave me a set time and then we spent the rest of the time together.
I actually caught feelings, but that was not the terms we agreed on, so I left. But before I did, he said he accidentally broke his gamer chair. I bought him a new one as a surprise goodbye present.

However, my ex is a different story. He involved me in games, but then overtime, he stopped.
Also, he would set a time limit and then go over it.
When I turnt something on, that I thought would be interesting to both of us, I'd turn around and see he was on the game. Sometimes he leave me in the other room to play the game. Don't forget about aftercare.
While I'm trying to come back to life, he's waiting on the game. You don't come over or call somebody over and then treat them like background noise.
It's rude and disrespectful. You don't appreciate the other person's time.
If you wanted me to watch you play games, then tell me. If you want to do something else, then tell me, but don't get annoyed when I tell you how I feel. Now we have an issue because when you play your games you don't treat me like you love me, so now I don't like you playing games. It annoys me.

Elliegirl · Accepted Answer

Because I wanna play too!

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I think some girls have a right to object , with their guy playing through the night and it spending entire weekend or days off gaming. I’ve gamed for years , but in moderation and no partner has ever had an issue with it, it’s just a hobby like any other. I don’t understand the view that it’s immature and or just a waste of time , would women be happier if their man was just out drinking / socializing without them? Or maybe he goes fishing for days on end playing with his tackle , or Maybe gambling at the local casino? .. instead of next door or down the hall having a laugh , interacting with people from all over the world in competetion.

Your girl / lady deserves your time and more of it that gaming but there needn’t be an issue in moderation.

aaron13547 · Accepted Answer

I don't like video games because the ideas behind them... We live in a real world and to me it doesn't matter if I can shoot my friends in a video game or not because I don't want to shoot them in real life. I dont even want to have war with my enemy in real life if the wager is my life... I think women hate watching their men waste there life on games because they love there men and know they could be doing so much more... to the women, the more they want you be doing, is things with them. That's as selfish as video games. The key to love is balance between yourself and their self. Women get mad because they feel the scales not fairly balanced.

just_a_potato · Answer

As a gamer myself, I am fully locked in when I'm gaming. Nothing else registers, and I'm only ever passively listening while I do it. So I  know  my guy isn't actually paying attention when he's gaming. Unless we're doing it together, I don't wanna be second fiddle to the pixels for hours on end 😔

Anonymous · Answer

Because video games are addictive... 😅 I think my husband likes it just as little when it keeps me from being present and doing my part in the household.

And then there are some women who think video games are childish and a waste of time. They don't understand why you'd rather play games than spend time with them. I think it'd be mostly extroverts who are like that maybe? I don't know. Find someone who games or has their own hobbies and doesn't rely on you for a good time, every second of the day.

Or, if the first reasoning applies, be a grownup and do your part... then game.

Hardon-Collider · Answer

Because her soul is screaming for real life and you're offering her a dead fantasy. It's not about being 'objected to,' it's about her natural orientation. Her soul is more connected to the living, concrete, 'flesh' world. She needs to touch things that have substance, not just stare at a screen. When you retreat into your video game, you're turning away from the living, breathing reality she's tuned into. Her objection isn't a personal attack; it's her soul correctly sensing a lack of substance in the environment. She needs to connect with life, not a digital simulacrum of it.

aceleon · Answer

easy math

natural born attention whore + her dormant attention giver + his prefernce for something other than her= resume for bitchy attitude and manipulation into thinking what you are doing is unnecessary and bad because it doesn't serve her.

Anonymous · Answer

Because guys enjoy gaming and if you're with a woman she can't have him having fun.😆

A guy can get lost in a game. And women don't want a guy they're with getting lost in anything but her. It's sad to say. But women few a guys game as COMEPITION for her, for her attention. And it doesn't have to be gaming. It can be ANYTHING a guy enjoys too much. This is the problem women have been given too much attention her entire life. She feels it's OWED to her. It's not at all reciprocal even though in her mind it is. This is why so many women today fail at relationships. So few have learned that a guys happiness matters as well. So they harass a guy till he eventually just escapes and runs for his life.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Women can't stand to see a man doing anything unproductive. Whether it's playing video games, watching sports, or just taking a nap, something about a man finding his own happiness and peaceful state just grinds against their souls.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Only times I get on his case about playing video games is when he ignores the things we need to do around the condo. Otherwise I leave him be. Wr also play together sometimes. Monday is Halo night for us. Grab our group, hop on Discord (not giving my name to anyone) and nuts.

worldscolide · Answer

Dunno, my wife games with me..

Fun fact, to that shitty pink anon, playing video games makes you better at spatial reasoning, problem solving, and all around logic. So you're essentially telling men by calling them immature for playing games that you only want stupid men.

dwreborn · Answer

I dont play much I go through phases I've tried over and over to get my wife to play she never does and I know she would like some of them too. But you cannot promise time with partner then be on video games rest of night while he or she is fiddling with their thumbs eventually they are gonna resent you for it video games should not be more important than your partner you love them so show it

Summeroflove · Answer

Depends on the woman you’re with. If you’re someone who plays video games a woman whose against gaming isn’t your type…. Maybe pick a gamer girl.

People want to change someone instead of deciding they’re not happy. Especially when it’s hypocritical when they have hobbies or things they do that others see as a waste of time. Like watching Hallmark or Lifetime…

HighValue · Answer

It is mostly the gen x and older millennial women that don't like men to play video games. They don't want men enjoying themselves and think any free time he has that isn't spent with them should be used to make more money for the women to spend. More of the younger generation of women don't mind it and many of them are actually into gaming themselves.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

The men picked poorly in woman partner choice 😲 and the men sound like there's subcategories of game players - the addicted, the half hearted, the sometimes player, the one with aggression issues, we could go on and on

Overbearing girlfriend etc

Kori1236 · Answer

I’m personally a gamer I don’t mind if my SO games too. What I do mind is if games consume his life. I mind if he wakes up at 9am on a Saturday and games all day ignoring everything else in the house. Nothing wrong with gaming in general just in moderation.

Titanic1912 · Answer

Because if they start dating a gamer, they’ll ignore them because they would be so focused on their game instead and just block them out. I even saw a lot of TikTok trends where girls would get naked when their boyfriends or husbands would be focused on video games just to get their attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Guy go do that young brained shit when your SO is asleep. OK I fixed the problem.

I loved them when I was a teenager and was very good. What are you trying to gain by doing it when she is there. Do it when she is at work even.

Use both your hemispheres and find the balance.

Competition? not real comp

Video games are exactly like being at an AMUSEMENT PARK You are only being transported to new worlds.

Kelly6 · Answer

@ringoffire I never stopped hubby from playing video games

Sharkshe · Answer

Because they spend too much time on it and then forget about us..

Anonymous · Answer

I play games myself so it doesn’t bother me, but it would bother me a bit if we planned to do something together and he ignores me to be on the game.

AviatorTom · Answer

Girls are the ones to answer this question. From my experience, though, most girls aren't that interested in playing games, video or otherwise.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No clue. I think video games are cool, although personally I prefer cooperative tabletop TTRPGs.

MJVillarama · Answer

Some just don’t get the appeal or feel left out, but it’s usually harmless, communication and balance solve most of it .

236color · Answer

Women view anything that is not working or paying attention to them as useless.

sage2021 · Answer

If it has that many benefits then game on!! Go ahead and game.🎮

AaronKrieger · Answer

Women do this when you have not prioritized them enough.

richm7023 · Answer

A guy should be paying more attention to his girlfriend then playing with his video game. There are always times to play games not always a lot of time for girlfriend time

Straight2thepoint · Answer

They are happy, calm, and enjoying their situation. Girls have social media's, make up. Both have a pretend world , one is real and the other is just a video game.

Bubbles934 · Answer

I used to be a gamer girl and I used to beat all of the boys. They never minded cos I could do it so I never had that issue.

SuperZonicGUY1992 · Answer

Woman want our money sure they asses all happy wasting our money at the fucking shopping mall.  They go Karen mode when we play video games.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

It's like when they want to watch Gray's anatomy, they get nothing out of it.

Kenkebuttery · Answer

Not me. I’m snatchin a controller and whoopin that ass, fr.

Anonymous · Answer

because they are attention whores. they want all your attention until they're bored. then they want you to leave them alone, as long as you're not doing something that brings you joy without them.

Pokerfacegirl · Answer

I'm not sure, I never had a problem with video games. If you spend an healthy amount of time its totally fine. Everyone has its own hobbies. It all about balance.

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Because it’s something you enjoy… and a easy thing to nag you about

Cll0y · Answer

From my experience they just want to spend time with you. They do expect you to act similar to them ( depends which girl you date)

Shehnaz · Answer

Girls don't want the attention to be shared.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't really know, but I know some girls who play video games too...

basementfox1 · Answer

If he has errands to do then it's reasonable to complain about it?

Anonymous · Answer

Because it is an activity that doesn't increase her resources.

RavVid · Answer

They resent it not being all about them.

SunshineFlowers92 · Answer

Maybe they want to play too!

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

Because it's all about me me me me.

Anonymous · Answer

Only immature guys play video games

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