Is it valid for women to consider guys who are too close to their mother as a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Yes it's a valid red flag.

No it's not a valid red flag.

Being close to his mother is fine but his s/o should be his first priority.

[Anonymous]

The one and only relationship I had with a mama's boy I dated, his mom thought it was perfectly acceptable to dictate what we could and should not do in "our" relationship. He would talk to her about VERY private matters in "our relationship" She cooked and cleaned and packed his lunches for him like he was 10 years old, and if he wasn't with me, he was 100% at her house. RED FLAGS all the way around!!!

There are people who think the world of their moms, but respect their wives and girlfriends as priority majority of the time and then there are those that don't think their moms can or should ever be challenged, they don't challenge them, and they would step over you to jump if their mom said, do it. Those "couples" deserve each other, but leave me out of that.

[KBird]

I actually find it a green flag when he has a good relationship with his mother. To me, a good relationship means being able to chat with her often. I think its refreshing. I think where there might be an issue is when the parent starts to interject themselves heavily in your relationship and become controlling (which I have seen)... my mother is actually like that. Im still close with her, but have had to keep my relationship more separate.

[Hellraiser1984]

Im closer to my mom than my dad because my dad is basically psycho. I do not trust him at all. I don't live with her. I probably wouldn't want to live with her because of her OCD. Im not connected at the hip. I don't have any other family except my sister brother in law and niece. My dad is very messed up from the abuse his family put him through. I think I see my parents maybe once a week. I can do things myself. I don't rely on her to do things for me. I love my mom but I'm going to let her make my decisions in life and rely on her on for every tiny thing in life.

[LarryWheels]

A man who feels close to his mother, who raised him and was there before his wife showed up is not a red flag. It's definitely a red flag if she has a problem with said relationship and is trying to push the mother out, so she can have total control over her husband's actions.

Remember, about 50% of marriages end in divorce; with women initiating 77% of the divorces. It's a smart move on a man's part to care more and look after the woman that likely loves him more and will be in his life much longer.

[HollyK21]

It’s not necessarily being close to their mom, but the nature of that closeness.

[fivebyfour]

perfectly said, guys who respect and look after their Mom are real men, guys who are controlled by their Mom are not,,,

[Purpleronnie]

It’s the context that matters … relationship red flags CAN be important for the big ticket items like emotional manipulation, controlling behaviors , respect etc.


Having a good relationship with a mother or father isn’t necessarily an issue at all , or at least any more than the absence of one is ! …. CONTEXT PEOPLE CONTEXT ! 😝

[Phoenix98]

No you should want a man who's close to and good to his mother that means he was raised right and a man who's good to his mother will naturally treat his woman well to.

But obviously the nature of the relationship between a man and his mother can change that. But I'm talking in general terms here.

[MannMitAntworten]

Since what one considered a red flag or not being entirely individual to what does and does not work for them … yes, it is. Just as it is just as valid for a man to consider whatever he deems as a red flag even if unusual to any other. It is entirely a personal perspective and trying to convince someone otherwise is futile.

[Zack-Bann]

As anyone close to his mom would tell you:
we don’t care what anyone thinks.

[Anonymous]

it is. I'm not gonna even take the time to explain it.

My advice is to try it. so it will let you learn a lesson.

[LiamJHayden]

They can do what they want, but it does show loyalty.

[blackeagle007]

Nothing wrong with having family values. They never dictate who I dated ever. If they did, I’d tell them to back down

[guesswhereivebeen]

I would say yes… if you still have your umbilical cord

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yes if you're too close to your mother you're a mamas boy and that's red flag.

[qwerty2469]

I can't trust any man that values a woman, especially his mother.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not a valid red flag.

Of course, the guy should also be loyal to his wife.

[Nikki1989]

It is 100% valid.

[Kelly6]

Its not red flag.

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[DrPepper12]

Totally valid