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Sorry if this is confusing, but I (24f) and my guy friend, let’s call him Jake (23m) have been friends a few years, and our relationship has always been complicated. He can be a real jerk to our friend group (he tends to blame this on being autistic), but he’s always let his wall down around me. I first thought he liked me when he started going out of his way for me; like offering to pick me up from work since I don’t drive, or going to workout classes with me, for example. And then again, when we were watching one of our shows, and I curled up under a blanket on the opposite side of the couch and he asked to share, and put his arm around me. Although, he moved after 5 mins.

But what has me believing this is what happened at our group friendsgiving on Friday. First of all, during dinner he tried to take my drink, and then I told him to ask me for a sip, which he did. Then we were discussing his dating life as a group, and then he said something like “I wouldn’t sleep with (insert my name), but I wouldn’t mind second base” and winked at me. Then, we were all talking on the couch, and I was tired, so I told him to move so I could elevate my feet. He told me to just put them on him, then he proceeded to wrestle me off him. He also took my drink out of my hand to drink from it, and then, while I was talking, hugged me.

Later, all the friends were on my balcony, and when we started to go inside I noticed Jake hanging back, so I asked if he was okay, and he said he held himself to too high of a standard, and he said he felt bad pushing me away because he liked talking to me and that it was easy to talk to me. There was a weird tension between us, and I mentioned I hadn’t seen him in a while so I missed him. He said something snarky, but then admitted to missing me too.

All of our friends thought there was something up. He’s also going to a football game with me alone that he originally declined because no one else could go. I feel like he likes me, but I don’t know.

I have recently developed a crush on this guy in my friend group. We have been hanging out a lot recently. Last time we hung out he met me at a bar after work. He got me some drink and we were both pretty drunk, Teasing each other a lot. Every time we hang out someone has asked us if we are together, I have a lot of male friends and I don't get asked this unless I'm with him. Our friends think we should go out but I'm not sure if he is interested. Later on that night, we were talking about who is stronger. So we had several playfights in the middle of the street at like 4 am. He won and very easily pinned me to the ground. I'm pretty sure he let me win the last time.

If I ask him to hang out he tends to reply quickly but when I text him with something that isn’t a question he doesn’t reply. He also lives with his ex-girlfriend, they broke up in the summer and they both seem happy to be apart but I'm not sure if he is completely over it.

I feel like there is something between us and I want to see where it goes but I don't love that I always ask to hang out and he doesn’t. He is like that with everyone tho. Am I being delusional or is something there?