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Six months ago my fiancee broke up with me that left me really devastated because I just found he had an affair. I went to dating site thinking that I can forget him by using another man. There I met Kostas who immediately did flew to see me. When I first met him I know I didn't really like nor love him. He forced me to have sex but this man really likes me and even want to move with him fast in his country however deep inside I know I am not really sure. I want to know him first but he is heading too fast. I am not physically attracted to him. There are times, we found ourselves arguing, fighting and him pushing me. He gets so mad at times when he doesn't get what he wants. But the good side about Kos is he is really serious being with each other and he was there at times I needed some comfort from my ex and life problems. But after six months, my feelings slowly vanished. I fear no man will be serious about being with me if I let him go.

After 6 months, I met a man named "Mario". At first it was like love at first sight. He is handsome and he has told me to he find me beautiful. We have a good time together like even if we do notsex we are enjoying each others company. We travel together and we eat together. There is no any negativity. All I know is I am happy when I am with him and I know he is happy with me too. The thing that makes me fall to this man is never force to do sex. When I rejected him, he never left and we still have that good conversation. By just hugging him. I feel comfortable and I feel safe. However, he said he hasn't move on yet from even for 2 years from his ex. But he said he really likes me so much. He feels happy around him.

A guy & I had something in the past but we broke up and became friends but there was still some chemistry by the way us. Suddenly, he starts being hot and cold towards me, he'll avoid me one moment and talk to me the next, he just kept switching for no reason. He's a player, he moves from girls to girls for fun, trying to make me jealous too but the relationship doesn't work. We started talking again then he starts snubbing me again and he gets involved with another girl, I thought he's playing her too & trying to make me jealous but they look really happy together tbh. I'm really heartbroken and stuck, I can't move on from him & I have a small feeling he still likes me but his ego is getting in the way. I don't know what to do, I just can't continue feeling like my heart is slowly shattering everyday, I'm seriously hurting. I feel so weak and vulnerable & I hate myself for ever loving him. I honestly wanted to make him feel as horrible as I feel but I'm too nice for that. Its messing with my life ; sleep, school etc cause I was deeply in love with him. Even now, I still can't hate him as i love him. How do I feel nothing towards him? How do I act cold and emotionally unavailable around him? I just want to be free of my feelings, so he wouldn't have power over my emotions anymore. I want to go back to being the flirtatious, happy person I once was. What do I do? How do I detach myself from him? Please help!