Someone please give me advice, I have a crush but im really shy?

[cluelessneedhelp65]

Ok someone please help, what do I do? I’m in college and I have a crush on this guy.

Last fall:

• he got hard when we got paired together

• he moved beside me from a different seat 40 mins into the lecture, squirmed in his seat, raised his hand and rambled (he’s usually rlly good at public speaking), sat on his hands, sucked in his breath when i leaned closer.

• dressed up (sweatpants usually, button down this time) for class next lecture and sat beside me again

• walked into class, sat down and leaned forward, stared at me. he stared for 60 minutes straight. i managed to look back once (im so shy) and he held my eyes for 3 seconds and looked down and grinned and shook his head. then kept doing it. at one point the prof told him to stop. he said “sorry, i spaced out” etc and kept doing it

• he walked into class, looked around and when his eyes landed on me he stopped walking, took a deep breath, and beamed

• inexplicably wouldn’t look at me the next class. we met eyes once and he was glaring at me so i flinched. his whole face softened. i visibly reacted (trying to figure out how to seem open to him asking me out). he looked shocked, followed me out of classroom, and spread his arms out and smiled but i looked down at my phone and made a beeline for the door. when i turned back, he was looking at me like a kicked puppy.

• ignored me for the next two classes

• i’m shy and i was going through it. i really like him. i emailed him for help w the final and asked him to meet up. long story short we didn’t and he left me on delivered.

• his brother saved my spotify wrapped on his page (i only know this from stalking him)

• i see him after break, he looks pissed off and upset when he sees me

• I see him a month later he stared me down in the dining hall grinning while talking to someone else

• I see him again— he gets on the bus, eyes land on me and get really wide.

• he’s staring at me and fidgeting w his plate waiting for his friend.

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this fall, we end up in class together again.

first day: I come in and sit in the back. he turns around and sees me, gets up and gasps when he walks by me. looks back 15 times during class, fidgets in chair.

i see him staring at me from another room at a school event then again at a sports practice.

he smiles at me

he slowly stops turning around and looking back at me in class so much.

i wore low cut top to get his attention, he got hard again, he looked back at me w upset face

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oh and last fall, he caught me glancing over at him across the room. the third time he did it he snapped his head up from his laptop to look at me, i looked away and kinda laughed quietly, he nodded his head, stood up, and walked out of the building. came back 5 minutes later. this was middle of class time.

[DaveJord]

Words, words, words... did not read it past the "I am in college and I have crush what do I do", part.

Just fucking tell the guy your interested in dating him, but you want him to ask you out. That's it. Its no more complicated than that. If he wants to ask you out he will, and if he doesn't then he won't.

This is the best men have had to go on in centuries. Do to women's liberation and feminist, grab your balls and be a women. Thats what it means today in the world to be a woman in a generation of demasculinnated men. You got grab your own balls and step up.

[spartan55]

Sooo much unnecessary detail. Have you even talked to the guy? How do you know he had a hard on?

[cluelessneedhelp65]

first time: he was talking about the reading and stopped talking abruptly mid-sentence. his eyes got huge, he stared at the table for a minute or two. i was confused so i didn’t ask what happened. when the prof said we’d discuss as a class, he waited for me to look away score LUNGING back to his seat behind me and then kept his laptop on his lap and waited for everyone to leave before standing up.

this last time I don't know i could be wrong basically his legs twitched and he crossed and squeezed them together really tightly and leaned w them in an awkward position away from me and then looked back at me w upset expression.

[cluelessneedhelp65]

i mean we were in the middle of a conversation that the professor made us have during class time. not weird for me to observing someone who i’m literally talking to in the moment and notice when he abruptly stops talking mid-sentence and acts wildly uncomfortable.

[spartan55]

Just talk to him... smj

[cluelessneedhelp65]

well now i feel fucking creepy

[spartan55]

I mean, it's been over a year and you haven't even talked to the guy...

[cluelessneedhelp65]

yeah i have crippling social anxiety. every time i try i work myself into a panic attack. got drunk before class, didn’t work. we texted for a week, i couldn’t be direct. he eye fucked me to the point of the prof telling him it was disgusting and he needed to stop, I didn’t confront him. also some traumatic shit happened last fall that had me in a very bad head space (almost dropped out of college, suicidal)

[spartan55]

Well then the last thing you should be entertaining is a relationship.

[cluelessneedhelp65]

a YEAR ago. I’m doing well now. Hence the need for advice.

[spartan55]

Well enough to not even say hi?🙄

[DummBlonde_Sally]

The best way is to ask him to help you with something like carry a heavy bag or physical, then afterwards Give him a compliment.
Or get a wing Girl to help to talk to him. It’s better to do something do something totally embarrassing and messing it up than never make a move, left wondering if he actually is into you. You can do it girl!

[dustybiker]

Ask him out. Seriously. Be brave. You can do it.

[Summeroflove]

Just ask him. It’s like a amusement park. It’s the thrill of it even though it’s scary. Right?

[Guy13]

At some point yiu have to Risk. Why not now…take a chance tomorrow

[Anonymous]

Why can't he make a move?

[cluelessneedhelp65]

i’m really shy and i think my awkwardness comes off as me hating him. i can’t look him in the eye, walk the other way when he walks near me, and forget how to speak English when I’m near him im so nervous. my hands shake.

[Pyrofox]

Guys have pretty much given up making a move all the rants about guys who make a move being called creeps and other negative terms pretty much killed the whole fun of asking out girls. Pretty much girl gossip has screwed society.

I'd say if you want to make a quiet move do ya know any mutual friends? Get them to figure out what his favorite way to get coffee is XD and maybe some morning just be like hmm... I have an extra one and just give it to him and watch him be in awe, that you like read his mind XD. Guys appreciate the little stuff.

And don't worry if you want to get to know guys we are pretty simple creatures. For the vast majority of us if you can be comforting, make decent meals and put up with when we want to be affectionate. You pretty much cover all the bases XD. And I guess the icing and cherry on top is if you can remember what our favorite things are and can be a little spontaneous with that type of stuff. And you will pretty much have almost every guy hook line and sinker.

[In_Trance]

shoot your shot or another girl will