How do I stop the awkwardness between me and my crush?

[Mazet]

Im new at this school and almost immediately got a crush on someone. At first the friendship between us was good, but now we are so awkward, we dont talk to each other or anything. He once randomly hugged me (yep as weird as it sounds... twas very randomly) and kissed me on my forehead... that was the climax of our relationship /"friendship" after that i was so awkward and i kinda blame myself. But now how do i stop the awkwardness? please dont simply tell me to talk to him. I know i should... give more detailed advices.

[SteveSmith1985]

Hi there. Honestly, it was your picture from "New Girl" that brought me to your question. I have a giant crush on Zoey Deschenel's character in that show. Mostly BECAUSE she's so awkward.

Then you totally won me over... because you're 14... and used the word 'twas". That makes me happy.

So now... to your problem.

Honstly, I do have a solution for you. It is what I would do (and HAVE DONE) in similar situations to yours... it WILL work. I can guarantee you that.

But it does take some courage. But it'll be worth it.

You simply... acknowledge the awkwardness head-on... and bring it out in the open.

It's the equivalent of saying "boy... this is awkward huh" in an awkward moment... to sort of break the tension.

So, if I were you, I would literally walk up to this dude (catch him alone). And I would literally say: "So... why are things so awkward with us right now? I mean, we used to be cool, then one day, things got all awkward between us. I think we should change that".

So again, it DOES take courage. But again, it WILL WORK.

How do I know? Well that's easy. I know because I can guarantee you, that your crush doesn't WANT or LIKE this awkwardness any more than you are. Bringing it out in the open WILL "break the awkward stalemate" and let you guys talk more comfortably. :)

[Waseem94]

Try to build your relationship from start, try to be as friendly as possible, spend more time with each other, share things and advices, and forget about the past (the bad things).

[AshleyBenedith]

This used to happen to me a lot and usually the awkwardness begins because of YOU not him. When you eventually get to like someone more and more, you unconsciously become awkward around them. You become nervous, you become less of yourself and less comfortable when he's around, and you become paranoid (start noticing all the details and dread the silence or embarrassing yourself). All in all, when you like someone you start to overthink your actions and you build this wall around yourself without meaning to. The only way to get over this awkwardness is by imagining him to be a casual friend. How would you act with your guy friends? Apply that to him. Breathe and stop stressing! talk to him as if he were a friend and not "that guy I like". Step 2 build your confidence girl! The more confident you feel the less of an awkward era you will have. The more talkative you become, and the funner the atmosphere will feel. Step 3 try talking about something he likes, or something funny. This will also help ease the awkwardness. SMILE! Smiling without talking in itself can also relieve awkwardness. Goodluck!

[SimpleRhubarb]

If it’s awkward, it’s awkward, and hard to avoid awkwardness at your age because everyone is still learning.
Like you said, everyone says, “Just talk to them!” but it REALLY is like that. If one or both of you don’t build up the confidence to break the tension, nothing will ever happen.

It’s all confidence. It’s all about being open and comfortable enough to show how you feel.

[BeanieCoatman]

what are u and a boy doing hugging at ur age?
ur way too young for an physical relationship,

wait til ur 18 at least

[NeedAppreciated]

Go take him in your arms and make love to him and fuck his brains out and treat him right!!