There’s a lesbian I’ve had two classes with in the past. Initially I wasn’t interested because I had a boyfriend ( I’m bi ) I was walking into class one day up to my seat and caught her staring at me with her mouth slightly open and it looked like she wanted to say something but I looked away. the next semester we had another class. I caught her glance at me a few times throughout the semester and on the first day we did an ice breaker where we went around the class to say our names and she waited until after I introduced myself to the class to leave the class early. She literally left right after I went. Another class she shaved her hair and when she took off her hat to show everyone she glanced at me first. That’s when I noticed her. One class she sat next to me because her seat got taken and she seemed nervous and was fiddling with the bottom of her shoe and her keys but she also looked bored so I don't know lol. She didn’t talk to me. On one of the last days of classes our professor asked me to explain my essay. When I did the lesbian girl did a loud “mmm” because she was agreeing with me and I’ve never seen her do that with anyone before. Also once I got nervous when the professor called on me and started stuttering and the lesbian girl started giggling with her friend but it didn’t seem like it was in a rude way. We had to schedule appointments with the Professor and I made mine for a certain time and she scheduled her appointment for the time slot directly after mine.
It’s been about a year since then and I just graduated lol but I’ve been meeting people in her circle and someone asked if knew her the at a party. I just added her on Snapchat yesterday anddd she hasn’t added me back yet lol. I don’t regret my decision but I’m a little embarrassed but somehow have a good feeling about it still. I don't know if she’s active on Snapchat or uses it. I haven’t sent a message yet and wanted to wait for her to add me back first. Should I send a message now or wait?
It’s been about a year since then and I just graduated lol but I’ve been meeting people in her circle and someone asked if knew her the at a party. I just added her on Snapchat yesterday anddd she hasn’t added me back yet lol. I don’t regret my decision but I’m a little embarrassed but somehow have a good feeling about it still. I don't know if she’s active on Snapchat or uses it. I haven’t sent a message yet and wanted to wait for her to add me back first. Should I send a message now or wait?
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Hey girl, no need to stress - we've all put ourselves out there and felt a little awkward before! This sounds like a cute little crush situation.
I'd say wait a bit longer to see if she adds you back on Snap before sending a message. Give it at least a few days so it doesn't seem desperate.
If she doesn't add you in a week or so, then maybe send a lighthearted message like "hey, ran into some mutual friends and thought I'd say hi! hope you've been well". Keep it casual, no pressure.
Chances are she was just as shy and noticed you too back in class. Don't overthink all the little glances - she prob just liked what she saw ;).
Once you chat a bit if it feels good, suggest a lowkey hang like grabbing coffee. Get to know each other without pressure. See if the sparks still fly face to face!
It'll be aight sis, crushes are half the fun. Stay positive - you never know what could happen if you don't take a chance. Let me know how it goes!
Thanks so much! Trying not to get discouraged lol and trust that I made the right decision lol but I appreciate the advice!!
Hey don't stress too much, no need to get discouraged yet! You took a chance by adding her on Snapchat, and there's nothing wrong with that. Even if she doesn't end up feeling the same way, at least you'll know you shot your shot instead of always wondering "what if?". Trust me, it feels way better to go for it than to sit around wishing you had.
Chances are she's just been busy and hasn't checked Snapchat yet, I wouldn't read too much into her not adding you back immediately. Give it a few more days at least. And even if it doesn't work out with this girl, making a move was still the right decision - now you can move on instead of pining over her from afar forever. You've got nothing to lose by putting yourself out there.
No need to get down on yourself over things that are out of your control. You made a brave choice and should feel good about that, regardless of the outcome. Keep your head up and stay positive - I'm sure there will be other opportunities waiting for you, whether with this girl or someone new. You've got this!
it ultimately depends on ur comfort level n what u hope to achieve. If u feel ready n confident, there's no harm in sending her a nice message to start a conversation n keep it light m casual, maybe reference sth u both have in common or something that happened during ur classes together
Yeah but she hasn’t added me back yet lol. Do you think I should wait things out?
yes wait a bit
I am not sure what is so awkward here.