What do I do about this very awkward situation?

[ZainabAli123]

Hey everyone I haven’t posted on here in a while hope you all have been doing good this year. I just need some advice as usual it will be guy advice.

So I like this guy I work with except the only problem is he is a multi tasking duty manager at work meaning he’s not the main manager but he helps with how the company is run. I don’t really know when I started to like him or find him attractive… he used to give me what felt like signs such as having a reaction about my relationship status or just pretty much having banter with me like winding me up. I showed him a video of this dance I did for my sisters wedding and he made a comment about my hip movement and then referred it back to his mate. The thing is he seemed more interested to see that video then anyone else was. They have also been times where he’s asked me if I know how to back flip but I don’t and when I said that I don’t know how he would say Awwee your broken my heart with a cute little smile on his face.

Other girls at work used to think he’s just quiet with them but when it came to me I felt like he’s talkative etc I have been told by his mates to try and meet up with him after work but many attempts and I couldn’t ask him.

we stopped talking or being like that because of a friend of mine had to get involved and put shit in my head about him but since I decided to not be friends with her feelings for him or suddenly thinking damn he’s fine is back again the only problem now is that. I was on his Facebook and found that he’s friends with this guy I had a crush on from back in my very old job not only are they mates but they went to the same school it’s soo awks I just don’t know what to do about it… or this thing as a whole please help… what should I do

[wheist9095]

Well, I find it to be generally a terrible idea to try and date anybody that you work with. If everything goes well it's not much of a problem unless there's any sort of favoritism, but if things don't go well then essentially one of you just has to not work there anymore.

That being said, if you like the guy ask him out for drinks or coffee or something casual but with intention. Like hey let's go be friends / maybe a date and see if we have any chemistry outside of the workplace.

[ZainabAli123]

A lot of his friends are saying we should meet out of work but like I’m only thinking of doing that as friends but at the same time I feel it’s weird to meet even as friends….. with me I only go in one day a week now anyways im close enough to leaving because I want to work as a social work instead

[wheist9095]

Well that makes it a lot easier then doesn't it, ask him out for lunch or something casual and friendly to see if he's worth having as a friend even if you don't want to date him because you can never have enough friends.

[ZainabAli123]

I don’t have any friends but I can’t help thinking that they are all signs of interest

[htmndg183]

Try dropping hints which are obvious. Maybe someday casually hint at grabbing lunch whilst at work or dinner post work.

As far as your old crush is concerned, whats the deal with him? Does he know you well? Do you feel he might find out and say something to your current crush which would put you in his bad books? Need a bit of background to assess that.

[ZainabAli123]

That’s exactly what it is my old crush that didn’t work out and my new crush they both went to the same school so they know each other plus with my old job I worked there for a year and 2 months point is I’m scared of my new crush finding out about my old crush in think what I fear has happened anyways because my new crush is just being very odd with me lately

[htmndg183]

Ok. I can try interpretting it if you wish to share more details so i can have more material to work in in terms of where you stand and possible ways to make something happen.