My boyfriend of a month ago, I met 2 months ago, we rushed into a relationship because there was so much passion, and I was trying to forget about someone else by dating him. The thing is, this guy:
•had an intense crush on me for over a year, before we met
•buys me lot of expensive shit
•is the corniest person ever and he says and demonstrates me he loves me like I'm the one.
•he says I'm the 1st girl he ever dated that is not playing with him
•that's why he thinks I'm the one
•he's trying to know where exactly I am, and he's always trying to hang out with me or chat with me
•he's always telling me how important I am, and how much I mean to him
•he always gets depressed because he cannot believe that a girl like me is dating a geek ugly ass like him
•he has very low self esteem
Lately, things had become routine for me, i dont feel butterflies anymore, there's lack of passion, I feel so oppressed, I don't feel free to do what I want because he's always there, I can't go out with my male friends because he thinks I'm cheating, and I'm not, but for me, trust in order to get freedom is such a important aspect for me in a relationship, and I don't feel that anymore.
He thinks everything is alright, he thinks I'm in love and sometimes I turn off my own phone because I don't want to know about the boyfriend thing".
Besides, I'm realizing I didn't get over my ex, and I kind of like other guys, and that's bad because you can't like someone else when you have a partner, that's unfair.
i know he's a very nice person with the warmest heart and I like him but definitely not as a boyfriend but as a friend I want to protect because I think i care about his happiness, but I care about how I feel about this relationship too and that's why I'm confused. And forcing things that are not meant to be while he's getting his hopes up, isn't absolutely a choice. Please someone give me advice on this, I don't know how to break up with him or even I don't know what I'm feeling, help !
Most Helpful Guy
Women are the worst for starting rebound relationships with absolutely no regard for the other person's feelings. I don't get how this site is adamant about men being pigs but women typically have control over the harshest scenarios.
Tell him the truth, accept that you might get a verbal lashing (I hope you don't for his sake; I want him to be an alpha, stoic male and just say "ok"), and give your fucking head a shake. He deserves a more emotionally stable and rational person anyway.1
Most Helpful Girl
You have to be honest with him.0