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28F, I’ve had this guy following me on IG for maybe 2+ years. We matched on a dating app a while back, I think he remembers the timeline better than I do. He ended up following me on IG, we msged a bit & ever so often he’d like my photos or send me a message. I usually left him on read, we spoke on the phone for the first time in 2021. We’re from the same state but he moved PST for work, he offered to pay to fly me to where he lives & would pay for the hotel too. I told him that I’d need to get to know someone a bit better before making such a drastic move. That’s when the convo was initiated over the phone, he seemed like a pretty cool guy it was a good talk but I knew it was long distance & saw it as more of a pen pal. We didn’t message for a few months after he left a message of mine on read (he offered to play a virtual game with me but never followed through), he ended up contacting again after my dog died. It’s back to the emojis & liking my photos.

I have always had a tendency to be hasty & remove people from my life on social media & overall when there’s an issue. I am very selective when it comes to people so I don’t think that I’m a bad judge of character or settle with friendships/relationships for the sake of having company. Maybe it isn’t hasty bc I think it through for a while before I do it, I don’t want to label it either as this is apparently a trait of Borderline Personality Disorder. Maybe there’s nothing wrong with me & I just don’t like people?

Anyway, I had gamer friends through an online game & we’ve been talking for a little over 2 years. It was more frequent around peak COVID & as of recently we haven’t been in contact as often. There’s one I like more than the other (as a person not romantically) & he’s better at gaming but he has a tendency to make conceited remarks that have rubbed me the wrong way for a while. It’s been a while since he made one but it’s been gnawing at me. The other one is ditzy, he annoys me & while he also has said things that irritated me, I was quicker to delete the other one. I just deleted the ditzy one today bc it didn’t make sense to keep one & not the other, as the better one who I was closer to was online more often. The better one wished me a merry Christmas & I left his message on seen. I don’t think he realizes that he’s been deleted, it’s been a few weeks. The ditzy guy might catch on quicker, they’re both still online friends but rarely talk.