How can I stop chasing people?

[Anonymous]

It’s human nature for people to want what they can’t have. So how can I condition myself to ignore the urge and move on when someone is showing signs of disinterest?

Life just feels like a chasing game lately. I meet someone, if they’re interested the minute I show more interest they pull away. If they’re not interested but don’t make that clear, I end up chasing.

[kramchancel]

Im on this right now. Like bad. My suggestion. Dont ever contact her again. Like no contact whatsoever. This could be tricky if you work together or friends. Our mind is a nast peice of work. It will try to rationalize everything just so you can either talk to her or "impress" her. Your heart will break and trust me its SUCKS. But it will get better. For the love of god just delete her out of your life. Dont ignore her But dont seek her attention. And if you find yourself ina situation where you are scheming to get her/his attention or to talk to her, remember this fcking post. DONT DO IT!!!

[kramchancel]

Sorry if i used her for the most part 😝

[Asker]

This was the motivation I needed. Also what if they’re on your social media?

[kramchancel]

This is why its hard if you are friends. You can block the person but if you think you have the will to ignore this person then keep them. But again remember the brain does funny things. Sooner or later you will try and chase him again or try to get this persons attention.

[kramchancel]

And if you do this, it will just end in you getting hurt again.

[Anonymous]

You just learn over time that there are about 3.5 billion women on the planet and in reality, most of them don't really want a relationship. Most just like the hunt. When you realize this, when she expects you to follow, you just turn around and go the opposite direction and find another woman. Eventually you'll find one that doesn't play this game. As I said just remember there's 3.5 billion of the opposite gender. You only need to find one.

[Asker]

This is so well said. Thank you so much for the inspiration.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem. I think it's our nature as humans to say "what is wrong with me", "what am I doing wrong", rather than recognize it's actually just thier issue. All you can do is be the best you you can be. If the other person isn't smart enough to see it then you just have to accept it, smile andove on. Because it's foolish to want to be with someone incapable of seeing your awesomeness.

[whereismyjohnny]

Just move on. It’s a waste of time.

[bulldoglover3]

I don't know tbh