Why is it that people never chase me after I reject them?

[993099142]

I met a guy woh told me he was looking for a wife. HE never graduated from highschool and I had a university degree. I assumed this was why he was interested in me. Then he asked me if I wanted to make out with me after telling me that he dumped his last girlfriend because she wasn't a virgin. I told him he was a jerk and he never pursued me or apologized for trying to move so fast. I met another guy, and he told me he wanted sex, I told him I wanted nothing to do with me. He says "okey bye." Why doesn't he try to change my opinon of him? I had a friend who was a lot better looking than me. I used to hang out with her 7 days a week, and when I told her I didn't want to be friends anymore. She never gave me a second thought or even apologized fort he bad things she did to me, even though we had been friends for 7 months. I don't understand why they just walk away without apologizing or admitting that they are wrong or trying to change my opinion of them. Is it because I'm not pretty?

[Anonymous]

I shall speak straight from the shoulder, but hopefully you will make the right conclusions.

Some bitches are just crazy. Expecting a guy to chase her after rejection is pathetic. I have an advanced degree and went to a top 10 school, but never have I looked down on undergrads from any other university. Doing otherwise is pitiful at best.

"I had a friend who was a lot better looking than me" WTF kind of description of a friend is that? You have some serious insecurities there.

Both of these guys were open about their intentions and you should be thankful to them. It's much better this way than to be played and hurt at the end. Did it ever occur to your that that girl may have lied to the guy that she was a a virgin hence he got pissed off? At any rate neither of these owe you anything. I do admit though it was very unthoughtful of your friend to just drop you like that. Solution? Make many more new friends and never get attached to just one like that!

Now on a more constructive note. If you cannot attract quality men, that tells something about you. Maybe there's something wrong with the way you flirt, i. e. it is too suggestive and guys get the impression that you are open for intimacy while you are not.

Stop judging your appearance and concentrate on what you CAN change: healthy lifestyle, workout, take up new hobbies. This will make you more interesting to potential partners and help you meet new people.

[SlipStream]

I'm going to keep this really short. Be glad that they don't return or continue chasing after you, because, why would you want someone like that in your life? ask yourself, would you be happier if they apologized but continued asking for sex? would you be happier if your friend apologized but kept back stabbing you? if those things make you happy, then you should pursue them, if not, then move on and be happy you are ridding your life of people you don't need. Sorry for being so blunt, and good luck.

[champ]

maybe you're too honest,. (which I appreciate in a person, I'm the same way)

and if a stranger called me a jerk, I prob would stop talking to them too, you pretty much told him to go away with that one. Guy 2 was a jerk so good job. You might want to check your clothes when you go out and make sure there isn't a sign attached that says "yes I do want to f*** you" kidding.. and your friend..possibly was not a good person all together so why would she care to correct her mistakes.

It has nothing to do with your looks, it has to do with your personality and theirs. Look for personality faults in yourself first, if you notice some try and work on it.

[bueatychick48]

no they just disagree with ehat you said. Then not ready to wait. But the guy that went to fast. He just wanted you to just say yes with any agrument. because he mite thing oh I get girls. Then the boi that dump his girlfriend because she was a gf. well he mite be one to and wanting to save. So they just jerks who neveer think twice there is nothing rng wit u

[meutia]

u answer it yourself, you rejected 'em!

#1. you call him Jerk = you rejected him.period!

#2. he want sex but you don't. Why bother to change ur opinion?!

#3. you said the breakup, why she's the1 who should ask apologize?

Girl life isn't always work as we want it, face it! grow up ..

[toguro16]

dear numerous numbers, don't ever think its cause of how you look. I too had a kinda similar experience. a guy I knew kinda screwed up my life, and when I told him I was leaving the school we were at, he not only didn't care but critsized me for it. it just goes to show how much some people don't care about others' feelings. I personally would never just ask a girl for sex/makeouting and forget about her if she says no. if a guy is willing to walk away just like dat, then he obviosly doesn't care about you and wants to use u. and don't ever be self conscious about ur looks.please don't hate me for my honesty.

i hope dis helps

[antivenin]

You seem to have issues with people that cause them to walk away. The first issue might be that you are attracting a certain type of person that will walk away. I know people that once you make a bond with them you can't get rid of them without going through hell and explaining yourself. "The trick to people just walking away is that they don't care." You must have quality people who care about you in order to prevent this from happening. You must be a quality person who cares about people in order to deserve such friends. Be a great woman and you'll attract and build lasting bonds with great people, I guarantee it.

[On_the_other_hand]

Guys don't care about university degrees. That is why so many female graduates are surprised male graduates don't choose them because they are their "equal." Male graduates are much more impressive to women with lesser educations.

The guy who wanted a virgin wasn't a jerk, he shared a preference (not mine) so he didn't owe you anything.

The guy who wanted sex and you said to go away, why wouldn't he go away, otherwise you'd tell everyone he was harassing you.

Seems like you think you are entitled to have people "try," no body does.

What your girlfriend "did to you" might not be wrong in their eyes.

Were you an only child?

Looks or no looks, entitlement isn't attractive.

[regular-guy]

Why should they? You rejected them. Also, if they are sleazy, why are you worried about it anyway? Why do you want gross people to pursue you? Hang out with nicer people and let things move at a natural pace. I am guessing that there is something else to the story. Not to be rude, but do you have difficulties establishing good relationships, or do you feel a lack of confidence with other people? These can be the kinds of things that attract the wrong kinds of people. You have to like yourself and respect yourself before you can expect other people to.

[ekspain]

why would you want to play these ridiculous games? get real woman! If you reject a man, expect him to walk away- don't reject him and be disappointed if he doesn't run after you!

This is all related to some serious insecurity issues on your part. Wake up!

[WindAtMyBack]

For every woman like you who wants to play games, there are a hundred woman who cry harassment because the man wouldn't take no for an answer.

Stop playing games. Say what you mean and mean what you say. All the other women in the world will thank you for it.

You rejected them. You told them you didn't want anything to do with them. And complain because they didn't pursue you? Are you totally fucking crazy? Or are you trolling big time?

[tzdc21]

Because those people respect themselves too much lol. Why would they waste their time on someone who is clearly not interested in them, when they can find someone else who is interested in them? They are not obligated to stay and try to change your mind if you don't show interest.

[NMMan]

If someone is rejected, they do not owe the person who rejected them a thing, period. Not an apology, not further attention, etc. That viewpoint makes absolutely no sense.

[Onions]

Why should someone pursue you after you reject them? What did they do wrong that they need to apologize to you?

What kind of thinking do you have that makes you believe they owe you anything?

[993099142]

You don't think it's wrong to ask a random girl to sleep with you? You don't feel that you'd be using her if you did that?

[Onions]

That's not your question. You wonder why they don't continue to pursue you after your rejection and I'm telling you that they do not owe you anything; especially an apology. Now, I'm asking you why do you believe that they owe you anything?

[993099142]

Of course they owe me an apology. The guy who divourced his wife because she wasn't a virgin and then wanted t omake out with me one month later. He should apologize for being a hypocrite. The guy who wants t ouse me to f sex, he should apologize for wanting to steal my body for his own selfish reasons, when I have a heart, mind and soul. The best friend should apologize for going out of her way to humiliate me in front of other people when I hadn't done anything to her.

[Onions]

Do you owe Jennifer an apology for sending that message to her bf? Or does she just owe you one?

[993099142]

I don't owe her an apology because I told the truth. He was interested in her because he didn't know what kind of person he was and whens he found out he dumped her.

[993099142]

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Check out this link. I asked this question on yahoo answers. 32 people said I did the right thing. 2 people said I was wrong. That's 95%

[Onions]

But you still think that she owes you one? Because, of course, she lied whereas you told the truth? Don't you think that he could have found out on his own without your truthful input? Do you feel that, as Jennifer's friend, it was your place to degrade her to her boyfriend? Who did that help? You, her, or him?

[993099142]

It helped him beacuse he is so hard working, and selfless. He should find a woman who is equally hard working and selfless. And I wanted to be her friend but she rejected my friendship, she wanted to use me instead instead of treating me with respect so I used her in the same way.

[Onions]

So using her was ok, but her using you wasn't? But, of course, she did it first so she must have deserved it. You know, you make yourself out to be this nice, christian person who, for some reason, is being mistreated by those around her. Do you think that your behaviour has something to do with their behaviour? Are you completely blameless in all these attacks against you?

[martyfellow]

It could party be that..but most people just don't have any close or deep relationships and so can let them go easily. It's a bad part of modern culture, in my opinion.

[prncssdom]

Two words, emotional unavailability. You should google these words and read up on it. There are some men out there that are emotionally unavailable and the guys that were talking about in your post fit these types.

[Marinepilot]

Because in their minds they aren’t wrong.