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Some background on my friend. She is very caring, strong, and loves getting people together. Sarah is pretty, always full makeup, hair curled, and always wearing something flattering. I am one who dresses more for comfort than appearance. I don’t like wearing makeup unless we are going out with friends or to do something where we are going to be in public all day. My boyfriend earlier on used to bring up how I should go shopping with my friend so I could start dressing like her. I told him her clothes are very expensive and not something I really wanted to put my money towards even when it comes to sweats. So for Christmas last year he bought me a bunch of lululemon. He says I need to be presentable when walking the dogs around our neighborhood. My friends have recognized when they all want us to do something the only person that can get my boyfriend interested is if Sarah tells him. He constantly gets upset with me that we never do what he wants, but he isn’t recognizing we always do what Sarah wants. He is a lot nicer and social with Sarah than he is with me. When I ask him why that is he says he would be the same way to me if I treated him how Sarah treats him. He is always asking who Sarah is dating and what she is up to. This is all so odd to me because he accuses me of having things with his friends if I even talk to them for 30 seconds, Let alone if I were to ever bring them up in convo. Last weekend I was upset about something else and it made me feel not good enough. He immediately brought up Sarah and how he doesn’t want her just me. My issue with the Sarah conversation isn’t that I think they would be together it is that I’m jealous of the attention and how nice he is to her in comparison to me. Throughout the night he would come up and say the same thing, I don’t want Sarah. I finally said I know for a fact Sarah doesn’t want you so I would really appreciate you stop saying that. It also just validates you aren’t hearing why that topic annoys me. So?

I work remotely so only interactions I’ve had with these people are through teams. I’ve been there almost a year, so far I haven’t had any negative interactions with the people on my team. Today after we all met my boss sends me message separately wanting to speak. She started it with saying that she doesn’t want to read into my body language during the meeting too much but it looked like I rolled my eyes & she wanted to know there’s something I’d want to discuss with her. I told her no & had to ask if this was the first time I gave this impression. She said no it’s happened enough for her to want to bring it up today. I told her it’s been a few stressful weeks & it’s all fatigue, if I did it’s nothing against her. But if she’s been saying I’ve been doing this for a while then I have no excuse to back that up. I have two monitors, one on top of desk & other at eye level so I had to bring that up, she said she didn’t want to bring it up at our 1:1. I told her that I’m pretty responsive communication wise & didn’t think overall I came across that way, I said that to imply that I have no issue communicating with her. I’ve been pretty open with her, she said her bringing this up had nothing to do with my work ethic this is all regarding “attitude”. With all the communication we’ve had in the past, she’s said positive things for the most part & this is the first time I really felt tense talking to her. She honestly seemed kind of upset, tomorrow is our 1:1 for the month & I’m kinda nervous.

I work remotely so only interactions I’ve had with these people are through teams. I’ve been there almost a year, so far I haven’t had any negative interactions with the people on my team. Today after we all met my boss sends me message separately wanting to speak. She started it with saying that she doesn’t want to read into my body language during the meeting too much but it looked like I rolled my eyes & she wanted to know there’s something I’d want to discuss with her. I told her no & had to ask if this was the first time I gave this impression. She said no it’s happened enough for her to want to bring it up today. I told her it’s been a few stressful weeks & it’s all fatigue, if I did it’s nothing against her. But if she’s been saying I’ve been doing this for a while then I have no excuse to back that up. I have two monitors, one on top of desk & other at eye level so I had to bring that up, she said she didn’t want to bring it up at our 1:1. I told her that I’m pretty responsive communication wise & didn’t think overall I came across that way, I said that to imply that I have no issue communicating with her. I’ve been pretty open with her, she said her bringing this up had nothing to do with my work ethic this is all regarding “attitude”. With all the communication we’ve had in the past, she’s said positive things for the most part & this is the first time I really felt tense talking to her. She honestly seemed kind of upset, tomorrow is our 1:1 for the month & I’m kinda nervous.