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We have gotten closer to one another, yet our previous selves have not returned. We are developing alongside one another, but some people have realized they are just total strangers. Being married to someone who has changed over time can be unsettling. You have no idea if the two of you will grow apart or together. Change can be scary because it’s the complete unknown. I was told by the older generation you have to grow separately before you can grow together. If you don’t grow separately then it’s gonna be hard for you to grow together. Everyone doesn’t always turn out the mature one when troubles come. Live apart for a length of time before you can live together. I was always told this

As an ugly cisgender woman, I've come to understand, perhaps painfully, that society often elevates those who fit its narrow definition of attractiveness. I've observed, sometimes with a tinge of resignation, that a pretty transgender woman is preferred in the eyes of some, even if they don't yet possess female genitalia. It has most definetly been my experience that even transphobic men would prefer to bone a pretty transgender woman compared to me.

I was chubby growing up & always assumed losing weight would result in getting more attention from quality guys (not counting the catcalling that happened when I’d go to NY). Now, here I am at almost 30, in a taller/slimmer body (women’s US 10) & I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually consider dating. I used to get more attention (but not much compared to other women I knew) but it was usually from questionable guys. And I’m told I’m attractive yet these women I knew would get an abundance of attention from guys. While people told me I was more attractive than these women & these guys that approached them would eventually show they wanted a *good time* a majority of the time, I just never understood why I always seem to be overlooked by guys. On occasion, people would tell me that this & that guy would be looking at me/found me attractive, those were the same guys I found attractive but they NEVER made it known to me directly. I should feel better about myself & while I’ve become more comfortable in my skin over the years, this is truthfully an insecurity that I don’t think I’ll ever completely overcome. Am I just unlucky? Or are most women really that fortunate to have their pick of the litter? I’ve gotten attention from attractive guys on dating apps but it doesn’t hold the same value to me, compared to if those same guys approached me in person. When I say *approached*, I mean in any imaginable scenario: clubs, bars, grocery shopping, coffee shops etc.